Tamias Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 Hello, After relocating 4 years ago to a different state and about 8 years of college with nothing happening past 3 dates I've finally meet someone that I really like. I'm trying to keep myself anonymous as to using one of my gamer names. a few months ago I meet someone online. As interests goes, we are in a rather niche group of people that are into video gaming, anime and other geek fandom. Since the first date I got the impression she wanted to be exclusive so I honored that decision ever since I meet her. I'm really awkward with dating, I barely know how to express myself emotionally without having anxiety issues... The first two dates went off great, got to know her, really felt a good connection. I went out with a third time to go see a crappy movie, we spent most of the night talking to each other making fun of plot holes and lack of dialogue. I end that date, kissed her good night as she left to go home (she was my first kiss btw). We keep a regular thing going of Facebook with chat, send messages back and forth, for a week prior to this and the coming weekend I was making plans to go to an anime convention with her. She's unemployed and didn't have to funds for it, so I told her I was more than willing to cover for her. She was happily talking about what she would do when she got there and at the last second, one day before the convention she bails on me guilt tripping me about how she can't go. I felt horribly dejected that day and said a lot of stuff I never admitted to someone I was dating before, we meet again just before the convention when I was driving south passed her place. At the time we worked out whatever that fight was about. After the 5th - 6th date, I starting having strong feelings for her, I confess them to her online. She was probably having a bad day, I don't know what, I asked her how she felt about me in return. She says I'm "over bearing". Her mood flips again a few days later and agree to meet with her for a 7th date to see another movie. A few weeks later she agrees to come to my place at the spur of the moment to work on cosplay props. Last night was the final blow... I don't know what to think about this or what to do about it... She seemed interested in seeing an anime movie that aired near my place. Since she doesn't own a car, I had to drive about 50 miles to her place and take her back to a theater near my place. She's acting affectionate and cute most of the night, we also went to a diner after the movie with a few of my friends. On the way back, I she her started getting agitated when I asked when the next time I could see her, no response, gives me weak responses. By the time I get back to near her place I asked her what she thought was about us, once again no response sat there silently, she bolted out of my car claiming she desperately needed to use the bathroom. On my way home... around 12:40 am after about 40 minutes of driving she sends me a text saying that she wants space from seeing each other. After a very vocal argument over Facebook, mostly where she's extremely defensive to the point where she claims everything I say is an assault towards her. She claims there might be a possibility, but the jist of it is, she wants to reassess her thoughts on me. Boiling it down, over 2 months of dating someone that I fell in love with, 9 dates overall. Also with a person that claims she only wants long term refuses to even talk about a relationship... I don't know what to do with her... I kinda want to ditch her, but she's the first person in over a decade I actually felt a connection towards... Sorry for the tl;dr story... I'm extremely heartbroken now...
Author Tamias Posted March 27, 2014 Author Posted March 27, 2014 Now she's back on Facebook in the duration of what I typed, sharing this moronically ironic feminist memes that trash guys for doing the same thing she just did to me... Life sucks... I don't understand this...
Chi townD Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 She sounds bi-polar. Just move on dude. Leave her alone. You've only been dating for 2 months and only seen her 9 times and have driven miles and miles for her. You need to move on to someone that is going to be more consistent. Hey dude, you sound like you go to a lot of Comic Cons. There are a lot of girls that are into that kind of stuff and they're not as afraid to show it anymore. You can meet a bunch of girls that know what they want and will not waiver. 1
Author Tamias Posted March 27, 2014 Author Posted March 27, 2014 Had a lot of talking with my friends, I'm dumping this person. She's too unstable, unemployable and disabled (physically). The amount of work involved in this person would have just destroyed me to the point where serious mental health issues might have arisen if she ever swings back to the other side of hot and cold... I have had too many anxiety attacks from this person. Good riddance, 3 chances is too generous, I'm not going for four...
Chi townD Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 Yeah, it sounds like she has a lot of baggage to work through and it's best to get out now before you get anymore emotionally invested in this girl.
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