AntiSocal Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 From your first love? I'm over her. But i still miss her. Not in a sexual or lovey type of way, not like I want her back, but just like as a friend. It would be nice if we could just have a conversation about whats gone on since we split. A laugh and some current events and then a goodbye. Even though i'm over her i still think of her a lot. And i wonder if she ever thinks of me and regrets her choices. Or if she just forgot me right after I went NC lol. So ladies did you ever truly get over him? Was it quick and painless? Long and drawn out? How long did it take? And do you ever think back on it and wonder if maybe it was a mistake?
iris219 Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 Absolutely, I got over it. I can barely remember what he looked like (and we were together for almost 5 years). He is now married with 2 children. I am happy for him and happy I'm not his wife! Everyone eventually gets over their first love. You think it's important at the time, but it's not nearly as significant as it seemed to be, not compared to other relationships you'll have.
d0nnivain Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 Forget, no. He will always be my 1st love. I learned a great deal from that relationship & it shaped the person I am today. That said I have since figured out that it was highly dysfunctional & went on way too long because I was a doormat. I also got closure years later as DH & I planned our wedding. Even though it wasn't that stressful, I finally understood that if I had gotten my wish & tried to marry my 1st love, we never would have made it down the aisle. I miss some of his family members. I miss the best friend aspects of that relationship. Unlike DH that guy I & shared the same profession so there were work things I could talk to him about that DH just isn't interested in but I certainly don't want that relationship back & I know I did everything possible (within reason) to make it work but it still fell apart & I'm at peace with that. 1
Damaged217 Posted March 29, 2014 Posted March 29, 2014 WAAYYYY over him. I wanted to be friends at first, but he turned out to be a psycho who stalked me for 2 years post break-up. I'm grateful to him for teaching me plenty about relationships, but that's all. I do not miss him one bit, nor do I ever think about him. The past is the past. Leave it there. I am with a great guy now and being with him has shown me just how dysfunctional and unhealthy my relationship with my first love was. It's a breath of fresh air to know what a healthy relationship feels like
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