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I asked a guy if he wanted to come over and watch breaking bad with me. We keep talking about watching it when we hang out and he has never seen it. Those of who have seen it, I know its over. I don't have cable. I have Netflix, and Netflix just added the rest of the show. Last night I decided to ask if he wants to come over last night and watch it. I normally go to bed super early on week nights, but last night I was feeling especially awake. Well, he had worked a really long day and when I texted him and asked him he was in the middle of making dinner. He said it would be an hour or so before he could come over and he was so tired he didn't know if he could last that long. He asked if I wanted to do it another time. I said sure. We had a short conversation about what he was cooking and then I ended the conversation. I usually take rain checks as a bad sign and back off. Do you think he was legit just tired and didn't wanna come over or just blowing me off? Thanks!

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Is this your BF? A FWB? Guy friend?

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We're dating, but not exclusive or anything yet.

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The way I see it, the ball is in his court. You've made your interest clear. It's up to him to act... or not. There is nothing else you need to do.

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Well, he had worked a really long day and when I texted him and asked him he was in the middle of making dinner. He said it would be an hour or so before he could come over and he was so tired he didn't know if he could last that long. He asked if I wanted to do it another time. I said sure. We had a short conversation about what he was cooking and then I ended the conversation. I usually take rain checks as a bad sign and back off. Do you think he was legit just tired and didn't wanna come over or just blowing me off? Thanks!

A rain check is when you already have something arranged and the other person pulls out. It wasn't the case here. He told you straight away that he was tired.

 

Men are human beings too, they get tired, prefer to be around when they are able to offer their best, etc especially when they are getting to know someone. I'd say working a long day is a pretty good reason not to jump at a last minute arrangement.

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If he told you earlier in the day yes and then all of a sudden backed out at night, I'd be worried. Calling someone last minute at the end of a work day...I think he was being honest and he really is just tired plus he probably had to get up early for the next day.

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I did the same thing last night to the man I am seeing. I enjoy every minute I spend with him BUT asking me on a weeknight at the very last minute if I want to do something is not the best of idea so I told him if he had asked a little earlier I would have organized myself but now was too late.

 

Spontaneous visits are fun but don't get bent out of shape when they're not possible.

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