Difficult times

[toungeofcolicab]

I just broke up with my girlfriend of 2 years, after seeing her for 5 all up. Well she broke up with me, as stated on another thread, due to her parents not approving of me. As all cases, I'm devastated. I haven't slept in a while (3-4 days) and haven't eaten in a fair while either, lost 4kgs.

 

She regretfully ended the relationship, and said there's no chance of us getting back together. We are very alike in the sense, we talk alike, are sensitive both of us and just simply know what the other one is feeling.

 

We bought one another promise rings, that we would be together forever. Now that her parents don't approve of me, she was devastated to see me on the day of the break up not wearing it. She said she will always wear it, even if in the future she gets a new boyfriend. She is still texting me, asking me about things during the relationship which might have arose. She has said now, she things we can no longer be friends, cause we've been through too much together, and that that she will eventually erase me out of her life.

 

My question is, what do i do? How can you wear a ring implementing wanting to spend your life with someone after the break up, but then not want nothing to do with the guy ? I am going to try NC for the next week and see how it goes, maybe send her a text see how she is doing.

 

Opinions?

 

P.S. She doesn't have a lot of friends if any.She would always refer to me as 'her friends'. She would always rely on us hanging out all the time, Friday,Saturday night, whatever, so i'm still going to try and attempt to get her back if i can.

Edited March 27, 2014 by toungeofcolicab
added a bit more

[toungeofcolicab]

So as all, i am aching to get in contact with her, text or something, but have resisted thus far. She is going on Facebook consistently to see if I'm online ( she told me she would do this). In the last 5 years i don't think i've gone without 2 hrs of not texting her, and it's been 3 days now and it just doesn't feel right at all. I actually had a big case to work on at work, and was getting panic and anxiety attacks just cause i wasn't going to see her and i've never even remotely experienced something like that before.

 

She didn't want to break up with me, but felt as if she was 'forced' too. She hasn't got many friends, if any, so this presence of me gone is as hard for her as it is for me. I think she will come round to the fact she realised she made a mistake (false hope perhaps, or optimism) but I'm prepared for the fall. She said to me on the day that we broke up that she wants to spend the rest of her life with me, cause when you just know it, you know it.

 

She has only had 1 partner in her life, and has never kissed anyone but me. Just 2 weeks ago, she was feeling the pressures of work and her family, and said she was depressed and i was the only one in her life 'worth any meaning' and wanted to take our relationship further, and then i get this.

Edited March 28, 2014 by toungeofcolicab

[Trovador]

First of all, take care of yourself, don't let your feelings ruin your whole life... is that the man your ex gf used to love? A man already defeated at the first indication of a problem? Eat, sleep, go the gym, jog...

 

I know this is hard but you need to keep calm, talk to a friend, a relative, your priest... believe or not, this also shall pass... but for now, relax and clean your mind of negative thoughts, I know this all sounds as a mere platitude but you need to start the road to sanity at some point and time, might as well showing yourself a bit of love right now...

[Brokenguy22]

Mine broke up with me for almost the same reasons except she didn't even try to ask her parents. Almost 5 years together. I feel you man. I stayed in touch with her for 5 months after that I just couldn't do it. I still love her and she says she didn't so been in NC almost a month? Mine didn;t have any friends neither. I was her best friend that's the reason I stayed in contact with her. But I gotta look out for #1 now you know?!