It's sad that girls are judged by how many male friends they have or have not

[joystickd]

Dude, my head hurts!

Next time I need to be more awake when I get on here and type lol.

I was saying: It's sad women judge men that are not accepting of women that have male friends. Everyone has preferences and just because you get turned down because of a preference doesn't mean you are judged.

[hotpotato]

Because its irritating!

 

I can understand how some women want to believe her male friends are just friends.

 

I think it's irritating that some women keep orbiters around for validation. That is pathetic on both sides.

 

Personally, I have a moratorium on new male friends. My acquaintances now live in other states. Why don't I have them? If I wanted sex or a bf I would just get it. This is exactly what most straight male friends are offering. I don't need them hanging around me to make me feel good. Male friends get horny and jealous, i don't want that drama.

[somedude81]

Call me paranoid, controlling or whatever; I believe that women in relationships should not make new straight male friends.

 

The odds are way too high that her new "friend," only wants to be her friend because he wants to sleep with her.

 

I wish more women understood this, but they seem to be in denial about men's desires.

[ThaWholigan]

This is an issue with sexual tension - how many people have it in their interpersonal relations, how much, and whether they have the self-awareness to control it. Obviously, girls and guys in relationships should have certain boundaries (1-on-1 meetings with friend of opposite sex) but all in all, I don't have problems with girls who have male friends. If all her friends are male, that can be dubious, but not an immediate dealbreaker at all.

 

As a man, there is a level of sexual interest regarding my own female friends, but I not only have self-control, but I'm completely aware of my involuntary sexual response to the level that it is simply not a factor in any of my friendships. I also have a respect for boundaries. But I'm just one man so.......

 

OP, people will rag on you for anything, particularly where it comes to gender politics. Comes with the territory of being human.

[Revolver]

Men are more wary of the girl who has lots of male friends and zero female friends

[acrosstheuniverse]

I've never experienced this judgment in real life. Everybody I know has friends of both genders. I have tonnes of male friends, ranging from like a brother to me to mates at work. No boyfriend of mine has ever had a problem with it, just like I've never had a problem with boyfriends having female friends. I live in a shared house and it's me and a guy in the attic rooms, my current new boyfriend is just about to move into a shared house where it'll be him and one of his close girl mates in the attic rooms. So what? If someone's gonna cheat they'll cheat. If not, they could have all of the opposite gender mates in the world and it is irrelevant.