cholee Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 I wasnt sure what section to put this post in but heres my story... So my ex boyfriend and I broke up about three weeks ago, I posted about it on this forum. It was our second break up. We dated for 5-6 months the first time and just over 2 months this last time. Both times I was the one who suggested the break up but we ended up ending things on mutual terms both deciding it wasn't working. We both still had feelings for eachother but I was unhappy because he put minimal effort in I felt both times. Anyways he texted me a few days ago just seeing how I was doing we chatted a bit, we texted the next day a little and then again today and he asked if he could stop by my house tomorrow evening after visiting a relative who I know lives close by. I said for him to text me after he leaves her house and I will let him know. ( I know it's not a good idea) but since we started texting I've felt less sad. (I keep asking myself why does he want to see me? is it to help him move on to see what he's not missing? is it because he really misses me and needs to see me?) This relative he is visiting I know he doesn't come out to see her often so it is a coincidence. It's just hard after a break up because you don't know how to act .. like whats appropriate and whats not. Hug? no hug? If we watch a movie should we sit on seperate couches? Where do you draw the line. Everyone deals with a break up differently last time we broke up the same thing happened where we stopped talking for a few weeks then eventually started hanging out again ..once a week.. and months later got back together. Are we both just trying to ease the pain?
David87 Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 It's a bad idea. You initiated the break up both times because you weren't happy. You tried to make it work the first time but it didn't. I think that it's time to move on. Start NC because this relationship isn't going anywhere.
letsplaygofish2 Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 It's really hard to say why he would want to connect and talk. Maybe he's had time to think about what went wrong? Maybe he just wants to see how you're doing as a friend? Maybe he wants to reconcile? I don't think there's any way to find out what he's thinking other than to ask him what's going on. Just wait and see... the Universe always surprises you in different ways.
LifeIsGreat Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 Had someone break up with me and then try to contact me. I ignored until she asked me very nicely in a voicemail to meet. I called her back and told her I didn't want to rehash the break up and if that was her intention I didn't want to see her. She claimed it wasn't her intention so I let her come over. She said most of the right things I we got back together..... only to break up again. Simply ask him what he wants before agreeing to meet.
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