ascendotum Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 You say that, but when you drunk and a skinny big breasted girl starts kissing on you, It doesn't always pay out as it should. lol.yeah that would go a long way to override my senses to the state of her apartment. The smell of dog excrement though....hmm IDK, I guess that's where being intoxicated comes in handy. I would have wanted the light to be on in bedroom A. to see if her bed sheets were really grotty or not + B. to see her naked while having sex. I hate having sex in the pitch black. Part of the enjoyment is the visual element. So this chick is an auditor. wow. I guess she is so obsessed with neatness in the financial affairs of her coy/clients that she turns off on 'order & compliance' when she comes home. No shock on the clean toilet. That such a girl thing. Seen neat toilets in grungy girl's places before. For a ONS I don't think you need to call back at all in normal circumstances. I would not initiate a call but if the woman called me, I would do the courtesy to reply back. Even if it means I would have to maybe deflect potential interest from her, I still like to treat a hookup with decency. 1
OhThatGirl Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 Just because she is not clean, doesn't meAn she is not a wonderful person! You were there, got your free sex and left! At least thank her for that and move on! You're right. Maybe. But I think from the fact she had an empty baggie of coke, beer cans and trash strewn across her floor, the smell of dog **** throughout her home, and banged some random guy from the bar (when he didn't seem to even try for it) that we can go ahead and rule out "wonderful person" at this point. Which brings me to my next point... OP.... Seriously?!? Let's hope that "free" sex doesn't come with a charge later... Like scabies. 1
Noproblem Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 You're right. Maybe. But I think from the fact she had an empty baggie of coke, beer cans and trash strewn across her floor, the smell of dog **** throughout her home, and banged some random guy from the bar (when he didn't seem to even try for it) that we can go ahead and rule out "wonderful person" at this point. Which brings me to my next point... OP.... Seriously?!? Let's hope that "free" sex doesn't come with a charge later... Like scabies. Yeah, because she was drunk, he was drunk too. He might be exaggerating in his details ...... All I'm saying he should text her and end it in an honest way.
ExpatInItaly Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 Because I'm a player, not because she's a slut and a slob? If she's a slut, so are you, sir! Pot. Meet Kettle! 15
CC12 Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 Nah, don't call her. Why I didn’t call her back 1. Gave it up on the first night So did you, though? If you feel that it's wrong to sleep with someone the first time you meet them, I wish you'd apply that same harsh judgment to yourself instead of pretending you had no control over the situation. Also I don't think it was appropriate or necessary to refer to her as a b**** and a slut. It seems more like you were bragging about this and expecting high fives, and not really interested in advice or opinions on whether you're wrong or not. So on that note, congrats on having sex surrounded by dog **** and garbage, I guess? Still, though, you don't need to call her. She'll be fine. 7
WrinkledForehead Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 Because I'm a player, not because she's a slut and a slob? You had me until this. Let us not forget that you are just as much of a slut as she is. You slept with her the first night you met her. Any derogatory names you throw out because of having sex on the first night are equally applicable to you. 10
GoreSP Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 No, you're not wrong OP. I'm all for sex on first dates or ONS but people who do this should have no expectations. While I strongly disagree with your first point, 2 and 3 are good enough reasons to not call her back. My question is, did she call you? 1
GoreSP Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 Ehhh guys as much as male slut shaming seems refreshing, I'm gonna say no one involved in this story is 'wrong' for having this ONS OP was grossed out by the girl's sloppiness and that's totally normal. 3
Sweetnothing Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 Yikes in this case I'd say it was her fault. You didn't lead her on, she asked you to come over then basically jumped on you. This chick sounds crazy. I bet it's not the first time this happened to her. 1
Author jay1983 Posted March 27, 2014 Author Posted March 27, 2014 You're right. Maybe. But I think from the fact she had an empty baggie of coke, beer cans and trash strewn across her floor, the smell of dog **** throughout her home, and banged some random guy from the bar (when he didn't seem to even try for it) that we can go ahead and rule out "wonderful person" at this point. Which brings me to my next point... OP.... Seriously?!? Let's hope that "free" sex doesn't come with a charge later... Like scabies. Damn scabies, I just googled that. I don't think it parasite ridden. A lot of guys are like that. When I played in band, the guys I played with were just like that, actually worse, they use to throw ninja stars into wall for fun, that whole wall was F ed up. I've just never seen a girl like that. It's like one those places where 3 party guys with minimum wage jobs live and don't give a F, until they get evicted and go back to their parents. She said the baggy was some of her friend's. I believe that, trust me she didn't mess that place up by herself. I didn't say anything bad about it. She would have said something like "I did it for the first time since college" they always say some s**t like that.
Author jay1983 Posted March 27, 2014 Author Posted March 27, 2014 You had me until this. Let us not forget that you are just as much of a slut as she is. You slept with her the first night you met her. Any derogatory names you throw out because of having sex on the first night are equally applicable to you. OK
Author jay1983 Posted March 27, 2014 Author Posted March 27, 2014 No, you're not wrong OP. I'm all for sex on first dates or ONS but people who do this should have no expectations. While I strongly disagree with your first point, 2 and 3 are good enough reasons to not call her back. My question is, did she call you? It's a little late now, had gotten this advice sooner I would have. Moving forward I will, actually I wouldn't sleep with her if I could do it all over again. About my first post. What bothers me about that is I'm probably not the first guy she done this with. She's probably been with a lot of guys and that kinda grosses me out. At least I know how many I've been with, I'm a little choosey, I'm not screwing a new person every night.
GoreSP Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 It's a little late now, had gotten this advice sooner I would have. Moving forward I will, actually I wouldn't sleep with her if I could do it all over again. About my first post. What bothers me about that is I'm probably not the first guy she done this with. She's probably been with a lot of guys and that kinda grosses me out. At least I know how many I've been with, I'm a little choosey. My point is why would it be bad for you to not call her, but ok for her to not call you? You didn't call her, she didn't call you - why worry? And well I strongly disagree with your 'she probably does the same thing with all the other guys'. I'd be considered a slut by a lot of members here, and I have had ONS and sex on first dates. I certainly have not done this with all the other guys that want to have sex with us. Even sluts are choosey. If you are assuming she's doing it with other guys, we can assume you are doing it with other girls as well. Not the case? Your assumption could be just as wrong about her. 3
crederer Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 Don't feel bad OP. I likely would have done the same.
Author jay1983 Posted March 27, 2014 Author Posted March 27, 2014 My point is why would it be bad for you to not call her, but ok for her to not call you? You didn't call her, she didn't call you - why worry? And well I strongly disagree with your 'she probably does the same thing with all the other guys'. I'd be considered a slut by a lot of members here, and I have had ONS and sex on first dates. I certainly have not done this with all the other guys that want to have sex with us. Even sluts are choosey. If you are assuming she's doing it with other guys, we can assume you are doing it with other girls as well. Not the case? Your assumption could be just as wrong about her. You didn't call her, she didn't call you - why worry? She sent a couple of text messages. I didn't respond because when I got them. I was like "Oh s**t, her" due to the horrible experience, and feeling like s**t the whole day at work. And well I strongly disagree with your 'she probably does the same thing with all the other guys'. I'm 31, and going by my experience, that's usually the case. Am I 100% sure, no but I'm gonna go with my gut. I'd be considered a slut by a lot of members here, and I have had ONS and sex on first dates. I certainly have not done this with all the other guys that want to have sex with us. I can't speak for all guys. But if you hold off for a couple of weeks, maybe a month til you get more comfortable, that would work to your advantage, a least with guys like me. Don't make that obvious, we're strangers on the internet, so it doesn't matter in this case. But IRL lets say I was dating you. I don't want to know how many guys you've been with, I'd assume it's not a crazy amount of guys and I'd probably never ask you. If you are assuming she's doing it with other guys, we can assume you are doing it with other girls as well. Not the case? That's fine, however you feel about something is okay. You don't have to think any other way. If you choose to not be with someone like that, that's your thing. I'm more worried about what I know about ME. I've seen girls make threads on here. "He didn't call me back after sex" or "My ONS is avoiding me" They get all kinds of responses. "He was only after sex" or "Men are dogs" So I made this to show people a guy's side of the story. Why I did this, this is my point of view. You think this is bad, I'm a fairly nice guy. I'm not a super sensitive best kind of guy, but I'm nowhere near as bad as lot of guys. I'm just regular/human.
Hello_is_it_me Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 OP, sweet thread and I like your style, especially picking the small fight to get the hell out of there lol. But, nah. I don't really think you owe a text back. The way she "kicked you out" of the apt actually was your saving grace for that. Though for good karma (and who knows if you'll run into her again at a football thing) you could always send something like "No worries." and go NC after that. 1
GoreSP Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 I can't speak for all guys. But if you hold off for a couple of weeks, maybe a month til you get more comfortable, that would work to your advantage, a least with guys like me. Don't make that obvious, we're strangers on the internet, so it doesn't matter in this case. But IRL lets say I was dating you. I don't want to know how many guys you've been with, I'd assume it's not a crazy amount of guys and I'd probably never ask you. Just out of curiosity, which part of 'I don't have sex with men on the first date all.the.time. didn't you get? If I consider a guy relationship material, I will hold off. For this I'm kind of like a guy.
Author jay1983 Posted March 27, 2014 Author Posted March 27, 2014 Just out of curiosity, which part of 'I don't have sex with men on the first date all.the.time. didn't you get? If I consider a guy relationship material, I will hold off. For this I'm kind of like a guy. Well think we're seeing eye to eye now. 1
GoreSP Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 Well think we're seeing eye to eye now. Awesome! My place or yours? I kid! I kid! 1
Lernaean_Hydra Posted March 31, 2014 Posted March 31, 2014 I'm not gonna bash you for going home with an attractive woman who you connected with because lets be real here, s**t happens and it hardly makes you a bad person. However, I must say, if a guy told me I needed to clean my place up "immediately", I'd be pretty irritated and probably neither want nor expect a call back to begin with. I keep my place pretty clean and on the rare occasions it's a pigsty I absolutely do not invite people over. BUT it still seems rude. There are far more tactful ways to go about it. I've been to guy's houses that were pretty messy and I didn't start whining and telling them what to do with their lives. Unless personal, physical hygiene was an issue (and apparently it wasn't) it makes little difference. But maybe that's just me. Anyway, there are easier ways to go home after a ONS...like just going home. At worst a simple "I'm really tired/have an early morning tomorrow" would work fine. Nevertheless, not calling her back isn't the worst thing in the world, it's not like you professed your undying love to this woman. Y'all just met. She couldn't possibly have been expecting anything long term out of this.
Survivor12 Posted March 31, 2014 Posted March 31, 2014 Cheryl/Ashley...hmmmm... The One With The Dirty Girl - Friends Central - TV Show, Episodes, Characters 2
crude Posted March 31, 2014 Posted March 31, 2014 I think there's almost the presumption here that while sex means nothing to the guy, the woman might be devastated or waiting for her Prince to call. Chances are she couldn't care less about you, and you don't have to let her down easy simply because that's the chivalrous thing to do. What are the odds that a drunken player who'll bang anything was a great lover? 1
Author jay1983 Posted March 31, 2014 Author Posted March 31, 2014 Anyway, there are easier ways to go home after a ONS...like just going home. At worst a simple "I'm really tired/have an early morning tomorrow" would work fine. It was 1:30am, I had to be at work at 7. I'm already screwed at work tomorrow, not to mention I'm regretting the whole thing. I'm not trying to make it any worse. I need sleep, I'm not one those people that can sleep 4 hours and be fine. I wanted to get to bed ASAP I wasn't about to spend another 30 mins chit chatting. Now really think about what you said. As soon as I get dressed "I have to work early tomorrow, bye" That's some cold s**t, a lot worse than "you need to clean this place up" I'm not that cold. Think about realistic mannerism. Yeah it was rude for me to tell her that, but I can live with that, no big deal. 1
ASG Posted March 31, 2014 Posted March 31, 2014 It was 1:30am, I had to be at work at 7. I'm already screwed at work tomorrow, not to mention I'm regretting the whole thing. I'm not trying to make it any worse. I need sleep, I'm not one those people that can sleep 4 hours and be fine. I wanted to get to bed ASAP I wasn't about to spend another 30 mins chit chatting. Now really think about what you said. As soon as I get dressed "I have to work early tomorrow, bye" That's some cold s**t, a lot worse than "you need to clean this place up" I'm not that cold. Think about realistic mannerism. Yeah it was rude for me to tell her that, but I can live with that, no big deal. Err... no. You have it wrong. I've done the "right, gotta go, early day tomorrow" thing plenty a time. There is nothing wrong with that. Picking a fight to leave? Yeah, that's just douchy! 2
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