Author Medium.Lumo Posted March 27, 2014 Author Posted March 27, 2014 Let's throw this open to guys as well... If your SO told you they had pictures of you that she masturbated to in the past, what would your reaction be?
Author Medium.Lumo Posted March 27, 2014 Author Posted March 27, 2014 Don't tell her! Why... do you think she would be offended? Would you be?
Noproblem Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 Why... do you think she would be offended? Would you be? I might think that is creepy.
Author Medium.Lumo Posted March 27, 2014 Author Posted March 27, 2014 I might think that is creepy. Interesting. Ok. This is a tough one. I don't know what to do!
Noproblem Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 Interesting. Ok. This is a tough one. I don't know what to do! In order to maintain a healthy relationship always refrain yourself from telling your lover everything! Don't hide the important stuff! But some things can be kept aside! It does not help that she knows you love her sooooo much, she might think you can't live without her and dependent on her. So, slowly she starts using that fact to her benefits without her knowledge sometimes? Look how we use our parents' love sometimes! Right! It's not a tough situation, it's not a situation at all You go make that scrap book of u two. Fight your urge to tell her every little details until you and her are really really together for ever, not now! 1
Author Medium.Lumo Posted March 27, 2014 Author Posted March 27, 2014 We are really together but I do get your point. Thanks for this. It's really great advice. Maybe it would be better not to tell her. In order to maintain a healthy relationship always refrain yourself from telling your lover everything! Don't hide the important stuff! But some things can be kept aside! It does not help that she knows you love her sooooo much, she might think you can't live without her and dependent on her. So, slowly she starts using that fact to her benefits without her knowledge sometimes? Look how we use our parents' love sometimes! Right! It's not a tough situation, it's not a situation at all You go make that scrap book of u two. Fight your urge to tell her every little details until you and her are really really together for ever, not now! 1
David87 Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 What if one day your girlfriend finds out that you post every little thing on LS and that the whole world knows about it? Don't tell her what you do with her pictures lol.
Author Medium.Lumo Posted March 27, 2014 Author Posted March 27, 2014 What if one day your girlfriend finds out that you post every little thing on LS and that the whole world knows about it? Don't tell her what you do with her pictures lol. Good point. I hope she doesn't find L'S lol. I don't do it with her pictures anymore. But I did for months. But these days I don't need to anymore :)
Author Medium.Lumo Posted March 27, 2014 Author Posted March 27, 2014 Make sure you clear your history on your browser Lol. Thanks for the tip. I already do this
Ruby Slippers Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 Yeah, I don't think you should tell her yet. My guy didn't tell me that until we were together for a while and very close. Wait until you know her a lot better and are pretty sure she wouldn't react badly to this information. 1
jphcbpa Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 Let's throw this open to guys as well... If your SO told you they had pictures of you that she masturbated to in the past, what would your reaction be? would be happy that she is not masturbating to photos of other men. 3
Hello_is_it_me Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 lol awesome thread OP. And no, I wouldn't reveal they are jerk off pics. And I wouldn't make a scrapbook just bz she mentioned it. (it would be a sticky-paged scrapbook anyways!) Just say "this is a folder of some of my favorite pics of you." 1
Author Medium.Lumo Posted March 27, 2014 Author Posted March 27, 2014 lol awesome thread OP. And no, I wouldn't reveal they are jerk off pics. And I wouldn't make a scrapbook just bz she mentioned it. (it would be a sticky-paged scrapbook anyways!) Just say "this is a folder of some of my favorite pics of you." Thanks! Good advice, if a little too safe. I know it sounds bad but I wouldn't even mind if she was a little shocked. I love her sweet personality but I'd like too see what this kind of information would do to her. If she's flattered, awesome. If she's shocked. .. interesting. Am I taking too much of a risk? I don't want to lose her, but maybe it's time I started pushing her a bit.
Hello_is_it_me Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 Even if you told the truth, any girl would be insane to get mad over something so benign. Actually, I would expect that she be flattered. If my gf had a folder of pics of me to rub herself to I'd be like, "Cool!" 2
starrynightz45 Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 She's your girlfriend. She'll probably burst out laughing, and then be flattered. I'd be flattered. 1
pteromom Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 I would be grossed out. Don't want to know or think about what anyone masturbates to. I guess my question is what do you gain by telling her? I don't see any benefit to you in sharing this info, but you are taking the risk of her not liking it, as well being disappointed if she believed you were saving her pics for a more innocent reason, like a scrapbook. I'd just let it go and wouldn't say anything.
Author Medium.Lumo Posted March 27, 2014 Author Posted March 27, 2014 Interesting. .. why does it gross you out? I would be grossed out. Don't want to know or think about what anyone masturbates to. I guess my question is what do you gain by telling her? I don't see any benefit to you in sharing this info, but you are taking the risk of her not liking it, as well being disappointed if she believed you were saving her pics for a more innocent reason, like a scrapbook. I'd just let it go and wouldn't say anything.
Do_The_Herp Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 Let's throw this open to guys as well... If your SO told you they had pictures of you that she masturbated to in the past, what would your reaction be? Flattered. Aroused. I don't see what's so creepy about it.. It's not impossible for someone to get aroused by a photograph of their girlfriend or boyfriend.. It's not hard for me, anyway. No pun intended. Srsly, though.. I'm not a robot, I have feelings. I think that it's a good idea, frankly, having never considered it before. Flattering and kinky for both involved.. I wouldn't mind if the tables were turned. I'd enjoy it all the same, coming from my girlfriend or a girl friend who I got into a relationship with.. It'd be really weird/awkward/creepy if they'd have never gotten together and he was masturbating to what boils down to a close platonic friend who he has to be around constantly.. Wouldn't affect anyone's life, obviously, but the guy has to carry that invisible weight and awkward sense of shame.. That'd be unbearably awkward for me, I could never do that.
Do_The_Herp Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 I would be grossed out. Don't want to know or think about what anyone masturbates to. I guess my question is what do you gain by telling her? I don't see any benefit to you in sharing this info, but you are taking the risk of her not liking it, as well being disappointed if she believed you were saving her pics for a more innocent reason, like a scrapbook. I'd just let it go and wouldn't say anything. Why would it gross you out? It's not just "anyone".. If you're already having sex with a guy, why would that not be gross? It's the same thing, really. Just a sexual act, which is either for pleasure or procreation *and* pleasure. Why would a solo cerebral sexual act involving you in spirit suddenly be seen as some gross thing? I'm genuinely curious. I don't necessarily see a point in telling her, save for in the chance that she's flattered and/or aroused by the idea, as several female posters here have expressed. Then it could be this harmless thing between them, it could spice things up. From time to time, she could spontaneously play the role of a private model, for her MAN'S eyes ONLY. I think there's a lot of fun on both sides that can be had with "personal" scrapbooks.. He could model too, give her some stuff for herself, it could be sexy and seductive and hilarious all in one.. If you know what I mean. lol It's not some predatorial thing, I mean, it's not the only option for one suffering from love unrequited or anything.. He can just have her in the flesh if he wanted. But if she's not around, for him to pleasure himself to HER as opposed to anonymous web porn.. I think that most women would prefer the former for many reasons you could imagine.
Hopeful30 Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 Whats with all this "dont tell her" crap? If my man jerked off to picture of me I would be FLATTERED. That's a huge compliment. I mean... he has the entire internet of porn and celebrities, and he's beating off to ME!? That's like the ultimate compliment!
todreaminblue Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 Hey lumo, its incredibly sweet that you kept the pictures when you were just friends....i think going into specifics why you kept the pictures to jack off too(which by the way you dont need to anymore so it is past) shouldn't need to be said....a little mystery is good....i do think you should make a scrap book...smilin...that would be cuute...jackin off....not cute...not creepy but surely not cute......good luck....deb 1
pteromom Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 Why would it gross you out? It's not just "anyone".. If you're already having sex with a guy, why would that not be gross? It's the same thing, really. Just a sexual act, which is either for pleasure or procreation *and* pleasure. Maybe "gross" is the wrong word. But I don't know... I don't see it the way some others do. Keeping a jerk-off folder of pics of me just isn't flattering to me. I wouldn't feel flattered. 1
Author Medium.Lumo Posted March 28, 2014 Author Posted March 28, 2014 Thanks for all the input guys. I told her last night... she thought it was cute. She reacted very well. Not freaked out or grossed out at all.
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