Charmed_29 Posted March 26, 2014 Posted March 26, 2014 Help! Do I leave? Sorry long one? My bf and I have been together for 8 months but knew each other for a year before..., up until 4 months ago he was an amazing sweet guy but slowly things started changing.... He checks up on my fb and whatsapp all the time.... Is nasty calling me names. if I don't txt him all the time he goes mental but then when I do he moans about his phone bill.... He has pushed me, tore my top of and smashed my phone.... Phoned me telling me he's going to sleep with other girls and last sat because I'd got annoyed with him about the way he always accuses me of lying and cheating he phoned me drunk.... Pretending to kill himself and making me listen... I had to listen to him pretend to hang himself then go quiet and wait 5 hours to find out if he was ok.... He txts and rings me at 5am to wake me up when I have work.... Refuses to answer the phone, tells me I'm cold then when I make the extra effort to be overly loving he says I'm emotional and he needs space.... He keeps promising to stop being nasty to me and that he knows he treats me very badly and he loves me very much but everyday he finds something to attack me over... He's had a hard life but I make every effort to be nice, respectful, letting all the things he does go.... I'm open loving and kind... My friends are scared for me and begging me to leave... I feel like I can't win and he just wants to punish me cause of his insecurities... He often tells me I can do better. What do I do?
DArtagnan2 Posted March 26, 2014 Posted March 26, 2014 You have to ask? I guess since you did feel you had to ask, I would say, you should leave. Unless you are ok with this type of relationship. 1
Damaged217 Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 I'm with DArtagnan2. Why is this even a question? I didn't have to go past the 3rd sentence to know that this guy is BAD news. Leave IMMEDIATELY. This guy has been physically violent with you. OF COURSE you should leave. He's obviously not mentally stable. Get out before he really hurts you. 1
Mo_Do Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 Ur BF needs help - the help you can't give. In a nut shell he's jealous because he knows he's not good enough - he needs to work on that, while single.
InnocentMan Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 The fake suicide and leaving you hanging for 5 hours is unforgivable. He obviously has serious problems, that are difficult for anyone to cope with. He needs help. If he won't seek it, you have to leave him to it. It's only downhill from here without the correct medical help he needs. 1
Noproblem Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 You have 2 choices. Waste your life in agony and pain with the risks of getting beaten up occasionally and possibly getting killed some day. Or Move on, write another story for your life. A story full of potentials; a story that you really deserve. He is sick, it's not your fault, but anything hAppens to you, it's really your fault then. So. Choose carefully. I hope you choose the second choice <3
David87 Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 Your relationship is toxic. The best thing to do at this point is to dump him and don't look back.
Arieswoman Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 Charmed_29, Please get off your computer and start packing now. My friends are scared for me and begging me to leave... and so am I. You are living with an unstable, violent individual who has real problems that can't be fixed no matter how much you think you love him. For your own mental health and physical safety please put as much distance you can between you and this guy. If he has assaulted you, as you say, you can still report this to the Police. Please take professional advice about pressing charges/filing a complaint once you have left him. Good Luck.
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