Amazing first date - Now being ignored??

[Imajerk17]

Sorry forgot to mention this.

 

She deleted her OKC account after she gave me her number. Said it was too overwhelming, and guys on there were pigs.

 

She is prob a 9/10 on looks so I don't doubt she got flooded.

 

Anyways, I have yet to respond to her raincheck statement last night. Thinking of saying something like :

 

Was cashing in your raincheck but it bounced. Hope this was a mistake and you didn't give me bogus check

 

No. Don't send this text. Anyway this all jibes with my thoughts on this.

 

1. You're coming across as too "gamey". And this is coming from someone who sees the value/merit in PUA. I don't believe in nitpicking texts either but the "your treat" in your last text was an example. It comes across like you are trying a bit too hard to appear alpha/generate an emotional response. But if anything you might be coming across weird.

 

What's wrong with texting her asking how her weekend is going, or better yet, calling her.

 

2. Many of us have gone on great first dates and not having it lead to a second date. It is what it is.

[WP4046]

No. Don't send this text. Anyway this all jibes with my thoughts on this.

 

1. You're coming across as too "gamey". And this is coming from someone who sees the value/merit in PUA. I don't believe in nitpicking texts either but the "your treat" in your last text was an example. It comes across like you are trying a bit too hard to appear alpha/generate an emotional response. But if anything you might be coming across weird.

 

What's wrong with texting her asking how her weekend is going, or better yet, calling her.

 

2. Many of us have gone on great first dates and not having it lead to a second date. It is what it is.

 

 

And that's why I think I'm not a fan of dating. Having a great first date and not seeing them again?

 

I don't have money to waste like that

[starrynightz45]

1. You came on too strong with that second grab/kiss. You should have left it at the first one.

 

2. There was nothing wrong with your text about her paper. An interested girl isn't going to be so turned off by a single text.

 

3. Your next text "let's get milkshakes, your treat" was a total fail. If she was highly interested, she'd still think that was an odd text. If she was "iffy" about you, she'd be extremely annoyed. So either way, that was a horrible text. You don't ask someone to go out and then mention who is going to pay.

 

She was already feeling iffy about you due to you coming on too strong with the grabbing/kissing....and then you hit her with a "lets go out, its on you." If you want, you could try calling and setting up a proper date, but I think you messed this one up to be honest.

[Lipitor11]

Have you tried calling her? Maybe you can actually get a hold of her and talk to her..not sure if that will make a difference. I know I get anxiety when I text a guy and he doesn't respond back, I think of too many reasons why he's not responding quickly. I don't think anything that you did and said to her made her decide that you came on too strong or creepy. Maybe she's talking to someone else or is not feeling it. I still don't know why someone would say things they don't mean. Sometimes people flake out on 1st dates or 2nd dates. I have met like 5 guys on okcupid, had a great time with them, talked, laughed, etc, etc. At the end, they would say, "Talk to you later, I'll call you, we should do this again, let's go out sometime," were ALL lies! Never heard from them again, and one time I contact one of the guys, and he replied, "Who is this?" That really made me feel like crap. Dating world is tough.

[Chico333]

Coming from a girls perspective, at this point any type of contact now txt/call would come off to me as being a little clingy. I wouldn't contact her again unless she does it first because then you'll know there is still some interest on her part. If she contacts you again through text then call her up and set up a date.