Guest Posted January 29, 2005 Posted January 29, 2005 Here is the situation ... I have been seeing a girl for the last month and things have been going really well. There is a few things that kinda puts me off her a little, such as she will never make plans with me (I am always the one to do so), and she will only say really sweet things in an email or phone message - never face to face. Anyways, I am falling in love with her, so I messaged her, and basically said 'I love you'. To which she replied with a smiley face and wanted to know if we could catch a movie tonight ... what is up with that??? She often says things in emails etc saying how she loves me being with her, and that she thinks about me constantly etc etc, and then when I think now is the right time to say 'I love you' she gives me nothing!
HokeyReligions Posted January 29, 2005 Posted January 29, 2005 I think its too soon to say I Love You period. It's only been a month and you already have found some things about her that you find off-putting. Maybe what you really mean is You are in Lust? Slow down. Get to know each other. If you tell yourself you are in love now you will convince yourself that you are in love and you just might end up getting hurt. Affection, even deep affection, is not the same as really loving someone and being in love with them. Being 'in love' is a state, like Being in a Coma. Loving someone doesn't mean quite the same thing. There are different parameters and they don't always go together, but are often mistaken for the same thing. Really, slow down and enjoy getting to know each other for a while and in a few months start thinking if her lifestyle, goals, and priorities will mesh with your own. She already has two strikes against her [color=darkblue][There is a few things that kinda puts me off her a little, such as she will never make plans with me (I am always the one to do so), and she will only say really sweet things in an email or phone message - never face to face.][/color] and it's only been a month!
Pocky Posted January 29, 2005 Posted January 29, 2005 She often says things in emails etc saying how she loves me being with her, and that she thinks about me constantly etc etc, and then when I think now is the right time to say 'I love you' she gives me nothing! Uh, maybe she's not in love with you, yet. Do you want her to lie and say she loves you? Then you'll be back saying, "She said she loved me, now four months later we broke up. Why?"
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