kane30us Posted March 26, 2014 Posted March 26, 2014 Hi All, Not sure what to do with this girl. I dated this girl for only two months (Dec-Jan) but is was amazing. Then she got cold feet and wanted us to slow down. I was okay with that at first then I felt so lonely because I could tell she didn't want me more then I wanted her. So for may sanity - I broke it off. I so regret that now! We still send texts and talk about hanging out. But, I know she wants to date other people. The thought of that makes me sad. So my question is...should I move on and just get over her. Or do I suck it up and see where this goes? I'm misserable with and without her.
Gaeta Posted March 26, 2014 Posted March 26, 2014 Hi All, Not sure what to do with this girl. I dated this girl for only two months (Dec-Jan) but is was amazing. Then she got cold feet and wanted us to slow down. I was okay with that at first then I felt so lonely because I could tell she didn't want me more then I wanted her. So for may sanity - I broke it off. I so regret that now! We still send texts and talk about hanging out. But, I know she wants to date other people. The thought of that makes me sad. So my question is...should I move on and just get over her. Or do I suck it up and see where this goes? I'm misserable with and without her. Yes, you let her go and cut all contacts with her. Don't waste your time on someone that doesn't want to be with you. There are plenty of ladies out there that will want to spend time with you and get to know you. You know that deep down don't you? Don't make a priority out of someone that makes you an option. You just dated 2 months, it will suck the first week of no contact then you'll be alright. 1
LostInThought_1 Posted March 26, 2014 Posted March 26, 2014 It sounds like you want what you can't have...I think that if she is telling you she wants to see other people and keep her options open...she doesn't really like you that much. You should stop wasting your time, and direct your efforts elsewhere. You are probably just infatuated...cut your losses and move on 1
Author kane30us Posted March 26, 2014 Author Posted March 26, 2014 Thanks guys! I agree. The thing is she's the one contacting me now. I think I'm nothing more then a "last option to her". The "fallback guy" TheInsane - You spoke to my nerve but I agree with you totally. I think I just needed to hear or read it!
GemmaUK Posted March 26, 2014 Posted March 26, 2014 I think you have to deal with the fact you make the choice to break up with her when all she was asking at the time was for things to slow down. It was probably so she could get to know you without it all getting too intense too soon. That puts pressure on and the person can't then just relax and have fun. Dating should be fun for both parties involved. If you did get back with her things might start going too quick again for her - then you'll break up with her...and the cycle continues....
Author kane30us Posted March 26, 2014 Author Posted March 26, 2014 GemmaUk, There was more to it then that. I didn't want to go into detail too much. But we were not around each other all the time, like only on weekends. The slow down thing never made sense to me. It would of, if we were around each other all the time. I think her saying slowdown and I'm not ready for a relationship was her way of saying - Just Not with me. A person's Intuition is right most of the time. When you like someone you want to spend more with them, not less. I agree its time for me to move on and for her to leave me alone. 1
GemmaUK Posted March 26, 2014 Posted March 26, 2014 GemmaUk, There was more to it then that. I didn't want to go into detail too much. But we were not around each other all the time, like only on weekends. The slow down thing never made sense to me. It would of, if we were around each other all the time. I think her saying slowdown and I'm not ready for a relationship was her way of saying - Just Not with me. A person's Intuition is right most of the time. When you like someone you want to spend more with them, not less. I agree its time for me to move on and for her to leave me alone. I only spent every other weekend with my now ex. I asked him to slow down. I wanted his feelings and all the plans he had to slow down and for things to be fun rather than deadly serious. He could not do other than deadly serious with me.
Author kane30us Posted March 26, 2014 Author Posted March 26, 2014 (edited) I'm not sure what you are trying to say? You have too many typos, sorry! I think you're trying to say I was not thoughtful to her feelings or looking at this from her point of view. I was and I did! This wasn't a snap decision on my part. We still dated a week after she told me that. But I could tell she was not into it anymore (seemed distant). So I broke it off. I knew it would lead to me getting hurt. I felt the longer I stay in it the harder it would be to get out of it. Do I have regrets? Yes! Anyway, my question isn't about the breakup. Its more about how tings are NOW! She still calls and wants to hang out with me but wants to date other men. She doesn't want to be tied down are her words. I really like her and want more then just "hanging out" and sharing her with other men. Its making me miserable. That's why I came into this blog. I guess I needed to hear what I always thought. That I need get over her and move on. Edited March 26, 2014 by kane30us
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