Els Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 I second guess myself yes, but that's because I have no idea what I'm doing. That's why I'm here though. It's best I second guess myself on a Internet forum and get unbiased advice rather than second guess myself while in situations with him and then do or say something completely stupid and wrong. I'm in this weird balance between trying to let my heart and emotions be equally as involved as my brain and logical side. Trying to balance both is maddening. I feel inept. It is kind of maddening, yes. I've faced similar struggles (logic vs emotion) before, so I have a feeling I know what you're talking about. I wasn't referring so much to that, though, as the fact that whenever something goes wrong in your R, you think that it's because of something you did wrong. Granted inexperience might possibly be a contributor (that being said, I don't think either of you are THAT far off the charts when it comes to relationship experience, you're in your 20s aren't you?), but I think a lot of it comes down to innate personality and perhaps a bit of insecurity on both sides too. Have the conviction to believe that sometimes the fault does not lie with you. 1
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