SpringBaby Posted March 26, 2014 Posted March 26, 2014 I don't go to a gym, I'm more of a DVD/at-home Pilates type of woman. I've dated a muscle head before who said he'd never date someone from his local gym because if it didn't work out you risk running into him or her every time you go. Changing gyms all the time might be taxing. It made sense to me so I'm wondering if I should even bother joining one to meet interesting guys who like to stay in shape? I don't drink so bars have never been my thing, don't get me started on dating sites, guys in church bore me, it's like they think they might get struck down for asking you out lol. I do like sports but I don't play any of them lol. I'm in meetups but so few people (men) tend to show up to the events. I'm self-employed so work is not an option. I'm running out of ideas. Have you got any?
topaMAXX Posted March 26, 2014 Posted March 26, 2014 I don't go to a gym, I'm more of a DVD/at-home Pilates type of woman. I've dated a muscle head before who said he'd never date someone from his local gym because if it didn't work out you risk running into him or her every time you go. Changing gyms all the time might be taxing. It made sense to me so I'm wondering if I should even bother joining one to meet interesting guys who like to stay in shape? I don't drink so bars have never been my thing, don't get me started on dating sites, guys in church bore me, it's like they think they might get struck down for asking you out lol. I do like sports but I don't play any of them lol. I'm in meetups but so few people (men) tend to show up to the events. I'm self-employed so work is not an option. I'm running out of ideas. Have you got any? Don't join a gym to meet guys. I'm a gym rat and it annoys me to no end when women approach me dressed all cutesy. I'm there to work out, not to pick up women. The only girls that I would be interested in are the ones that are also hitting the gym hard. No makeup, no cutesy attire, just clearly breaking their a**. These are also the women that don't approach me...or even look at me, for that matter. I'm looking for a relationship though, not just a hookup. 1
Author SpringBaby Posted March 26, 2014 Author Posted March 26, 2014 Don't join a gym to meet guys. I'm a gym rat and it annoys me to no end when women approach me dressed all cutesy. I'm there to work out, not to pick up women. The only girls that I would be interested in are the ones that are also hitting the gym hard. No makeup, no cutesy attire, just clearly breaking their a**. These are also the women that don't approach me...or even look at me, for that matter. I'm looking for a relationship though, not just a hookup. Yeah I hear you, I guess those looking for hookups wouldn't care. But thank you because I did want the opinion of a guy who is looking for a relationship. But a couple things: I wouldn't be joining a gym just to meet guys, it would be more like multi-tasking. And I don't approach guys. But I'm not going to lie, I would be cutesy lol. I'm in a new town and was just looking for more ways to meet people, women too but mostly men.
thecrucible Posted March 26, 2014 Posted March 26, 2014 My ex boyfriend works in my gym so I can't face going there anymore. 1
topaMAXX Posted March 26, 2014 Posted March 26, 2014 Yeah I hear you, I guess those looking for hookups wouldn't care. But thank you because I did want the opinion of a guy who is looking for a relationship. But a couple things: I wouldn't be joining a gym just to meet guys, it would be more like multi-tasking. And I don't approach guys. But I'm not going to lie, I would be cutesy lol. I'm in a new town and was just looking for more ways to meet people, women too but mostly men. To each their own. This gives off a desperate vibe to me. I mean I've seen girls wearing makeup and heels at the gym lol. Why don't you just do online dating? You can meet TONS of guys that way, especially in New York.
jay1983 Posted March 26, 2014 Posted March 26, 2014 Your getting some negative responses. I don't see what the big deal is. I think it's a good place to meet people. I've dated a girl from my gym, didn't work out but theres no hard feelings. I still see her there, say hi, chat for a minute, no big thing. You only live once, don't pass up anything. Make the best of it. 2
Hello_is_it_me Posted March 26, 2014 Posted March 26, 2014 ^I'm with you. It's a place to mean people that are health minded like yourself. I think the gym is a great place to meet hotties. On a kind of related note, at my University they have on-campus sand volleyball courts. Awesome way to meet hot athletic chicks in spandex! 1
irc333 Posted March 26, 2014 Posted March 26, 2014 I don't go to a gym, I'm more of a DVD/at-home Pilates type of woman. I've dated a muscle head before who said he'd never date someone from his local gym because if it didn't work out you risk running into him or her every time you go. You risk running into the same person if you meet them at college or within a social circle. Just an excuse. 1
StanMusial Posted March 26, 2014 Posted March 26, 2014 You risk running into the same person if you meet them at college or within a social circle. Just an excuse. Just behave in a manner that wouldn't give you anything to be embarassed or awkward about. No need for all the drama. I have been asked out by girls at the gym before. It was usually when I was dating someone else though (except one time) and I declined. I usually was friendly and spoke to them later when I saw them around.
Chocolat Posted March 26, 2014 Posted March 26, 2014 Don't join a gym to meet guys. I'm a gym rat and it annoys me to no end when women approach me dressed all cutesy. I'm there to work out, not to pick up women. The only girls that I would be interested in are the ones that are also hitting the gym hard. No makeup, no cutesy attire, just clearly breaking their a**. These are also the women that don't approach me...or even look at me, for that matter. I'm looking for a relationship though, not just a hookup. This. It all depends on what you are after.
RonaldS Posted March 26, 2014 Posted March 26, 2014 As I've stated before on this topic.... I personally don't date women from my gym, but I've never really delved into why. For a lot of people, meeting at the gym is awkward or difficult, because for the most part, people are there to work out, and the casual approachable moments are rare. However, the loophole is classes. Most decent gyms have a number of cardio, yoga, pilates, spin, or whatever the hell classes. They're a great way to meet people because you get there at the same time, you're doing all the same things, and you leave at the same time. Since you're doing the same workout, you have instant commonality and it's so easy to start conversations. For me, when I'm at the gym, I'm playing basketball, so my conversations are always with guys. Then, when I do go up to the weights/workout area, I'm pretty focused on what I'm doing, so don't chat too much. However, last summer I did a 1 month membership at a kettle bell/TRX gym that my buddy owns. It was all classes, typically about 15 people per class, and usually about 75% women. Holy crap. I could have cleaned up there if I wanted to. First of all, I'm in good shape and the other guys there were sorta puds. But more than that, you're talking while you're warming up, then you're working out next to each other, then you finish at the same time and walk out together. I met like 25 women in a month, but I was involved with somebody and didn't push anything. In summary, join a gym for you....for your health, wellness and balance. But sometimes meeting cute people is an unavoidable ancillary benefit if being at a gym, and it's not wrong to want to meet somebody there. If you want that, join a gym that has a lot of classes that you would want to do. 1
jba10582 Posted March 26, 2014 Posted March 26, 2014 Yeah, it is. The more open you are to meeting people, the more people you are likely to meet. There is so much too talk about in a gym, I don't see how it's difficult for some people. Always have sports on, some places have classes, some people go to crossfit places outside class or take some form of martial arts. Some commute...It's not hard to meet people at the gym unless you don't really want too or read that the other person either doesn't want too or is (ape**** focused and leaves), but most people are decent normal damn people once you get past their proper fake persona. 1
StanMusial Posted March 26, 2014 Posted March 26, 2014 I've been gymming for 15+ years and as such I've visited many different gyms. I have noticed that some gyms are more of a social "pickup" joint than others. Even if you don't hear it by reputation it is usually fairly obvious after the briefest of visits. Where I used to live there were a couple of gyms like that. The opposite would be somewhere like the Y where it is more family oriented. Something to consider.
Author SpringBaby Posted March 26, 2014 Author Posted March 26, 2014 You risk running into the same person if you meet them at college or within a social circle. Just an excuse. That's true or at work. I didn't meet him at the gym though, he was just mentioning why he wouldn't date women from the gym.
Author SpringBaby Posted March 26, 2014 Author Posted March 26, 2014 To each their own. This gives off a desperate vibe to me. I mean I've seen girls wearing makeup and heels at the gym lol. Why don't you just do online dating? You can meet TONS of guys that way, especially in New York. I'm not sure how that sounds desperate. I trying to meet people while doing something that interests me. Maybe you need to re-read what I said. Some women are uncomfortable without makeup and heels are good for squats and glute workouts on the stairmaster. FYI. I have dated online and to me it seems those guys are the ones looking for hookups.
Author SpringBaby Posted March 26, 2014 Author Posted March 26, 2014 Your getting some negative responses. I don't see what the big deal is. I think it's a good place to meet people. I've dated a girl from my gym, didn't work out but theres no hard feelings. I still see her there, say hi, chat for a minute, no big thing. You only live once, don't pass up anything. Make the best of it. Yeah thanks, I don't see many negative comments, just misguided ones.
Author SpringBaby Posted March 26, 2014 Author Posted March 26, 2014 ^I'm with you. It's a place to mean people that are health minded like yourself. I think the gym is a great place to meet hotties. On a kind of related note, at my University they have on-campus sand volleyball courts. Awesome way to meet hot athletic chicks in spandex! Oh yeah that helps, I did play volleyball, wouldn't mind taking that up again. I kinda want to learn golf too.
Author SpringBaby Posted March 26, 2014 Author Posted March 26, 2014 Yeah, it is. The more open you are to meeting people, the more people you are likely to meet. There is so much too talk about in a gym, I don't see how it's difficult for some people. Always have sports on, some places have classes, some people go to crossfit places outside class or take some form of martial arts. Some commute...It's not hard to meet people at the gym unless you don't really want too or read that the other person either doesn't want too or is (ape**** focused and leaves), but most people are decent normal damn people once you get past their proper fake persona. I think there is an ape**** focused one on this thread lol. Thanks J.
fortyninethousand322 Posted March 26, 2014 Posted March 26, 2014 I don't talk to women at my gym, nor do they talk to me. I just kind of look at the attractive women who go but I don't say a word to them. I figure I'm there to work out, they're there to work out so why bother? I don't want to be that creep who hits on every woman at the gym.
Author SpringBaby Posted March 26, 2014 Author Posted March 26, 2014 I don't talk to women at my gym, nor do they talk to me. I just kind of look at the attractive women who go but I don't say a word to them. I figure I'm there to work out, they're there to work out so why bother? I don't want to be that creep who hits on every woman at the gym. Yeah that's the kind of vibe I picked up when I was a gym member in the past.
HappyLove Posted March 26, 2014 Posted March 26, 2014 I say why not?! You gotta do different things to get yourself "out there". One of the best ways to improve your dating chances is to look your best! So getting out there and getting in shape and most importantly feeling good about yourself is a win win! If you meet a great guy too hey that's the cherry on top! I liked the idea of classes as well because once you start seeing familiar faces and talking, you could make some friends maybe meet a man! Go for it! 1
Author SpringBaby Posted March 26, 2014 Author Posted March 26, 2014 I say why not?! You gotta do different things to get yourself "out there". One of the best ways to improve your dating chances is to look your best! So getting out there and getting in shape and most importantly feeling good about yourself is a win win! If you meet a great guy too hey that's the cherry on top! I liked the idea of classes as well because once you start seeing familiar faces and talking, you could make some friends maybe meet a man! Go for it! Oh HappyLove, you're my favorite .
jba10582 Posted March 26, 2014 Posted March 26, 2014 plus, if you do join (which, more importantly is good for your health and a good mood elevator and anti-depressant). I actually do not see too many girls in makeup trying to look cutesy or overly dressing in things sexier than working clothes or yoga pants, but from their overall swagger, not actively trying to get or reject attention, (but you get to choose your gym). A lot are sporty and athletic looking and and some of them participate in local college sports and or/also do cross fit on the side or at town about 20 minutes away. Most of them are not at all intimidated and jump in with the free weights right with the guys.
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