thegreatesthumphrey Posted March 26, 2014 Posted March 26, 2014 (edited) i posted earlier about how i broke up with my boyfriend and the comment he responded with when i asked him to open up. You have to understand that he and i both have issues with relationships. He has commitment issues because of a bad case of relationships past. he has been hurt which i totally understand because i have too but his way of dealing with it is to not show any emotion and to put up a wall so that he wont be hurt again. My issues are that i hate being alone. i hate the feeling that i am not worth having love. my best friend keeps telling me that to have love happen to me i must first fall in love with myself. i have been dealing with these issues for so long that i have gotten to a point of being comfortable and just find someone to keep my attention until the real mr right comes along and not just mr right now. i have no idea if this is the guy i am meant to be with. should i follow my friends advice and search for someone who will show me how they feel and not be scared to open up. or how can i tell if i am about to make the biggest mistake of my life by letting someone go that i have been searching for for the past ten years even though he doesnt show me any emotion or express how he cares or even say i love you after a year of committing myself to him. Edited March 26, 2014 by thegreatesthumphrey title
Author thegreatesthumphrey Posted March 26, 2014 Author Posted March 26, 2014 l texted him this tonight: "We both know that you dont have to, but l would appreciate it if you would tell me why you dislike me so much. lt kind of came out of no where. Just be honest with me. The truth never hurts." He texted: "Thats not it at all." What does this mean???
pickflicker Posted March 26, 2014 Posted March 26, 2014 (edited) We don't have a choice if we end up alone. Sometimes it happens, so we had better try and make the most of it when we are. Secondly, you broke up with him. Why are you trying to seek answers? You put the pin in it, I don't get it. Edited March 26, 2014 by pickflicker
Author thegreatesthumphrey Posted March 26, 2014 Author Posted March 26, 2014 Do not reply to this topic. My friend wrote this thread based on how she percieves my relationship... granted normally a friend has a more realistic view point, but we became distant friends for an extended period of time in our lives. She has never met him even once. Me and her were separated for the entierty of mine and Eds relationship. We only came back into contact a couple weeks ago. Also, her view point of me is way off. Do l prefer to be alone, no, but will l take being alone over being in a pointless relationship just for the sake of it? ANYDAY! and l stand by that strongly. Which is part of the reason l am still single, obvioulsly! lol. Me and her also dont see eye to eye at all! She believes in marriage... l dont. She thinks people should know for a fact that they love each other after 2 months. She thinks that because Ed didnt say he loved me for a whole year that there is absolutely something wrong. l sit on the completely opposite side of the fence from her. l believe that you cannot really know you love a person until between 2-4 years. l love her to death, and l am so glad that she is happy and married, but it would not let me delete the post and frankly l thought she made me sound slightly pathetic:)
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