Ciel0 Posted March 26, 2014 Posted March 26, 2014 I get anxious when I see my crush follow a girl back on Instagram or add a new friend (who happens to be a female). I automatically worry that that she is his new girlfriend or that he likes her romantically. It's so silly and infuriating! My imagination really trips me up sometimes. Do you this too? How do you cope? Thanks!
Hello_is_it_me Posted March 26, 2014 Posted March 26, 2014 Best thing to do for this is to distract yourself. Do a hobby that takes you away from the lameness that is social media. 1
thecrucible Posted March 26, 2014 Posted March 26, 2014 I agree with the above. You really can't read too much into social media. And try your best not to focus on his approval. Be confident in yourself. You're great enough that no other girl should be any competition But focus on how you feel around him in person. If you feel insecure around him then don't deny it. It means something isn't right. Also as per above...social media is such a black hole. I think it make anyone depressed who spends too long on it. 1
Author Ciel0 Posted March 26, 2014 Author Posted March 26, 2014 I think part of it is that I feel guilty for liking someone who is taken. When I don't have any evidence the "what ifs" become quite troublesome.
thecrucible Posted March 26, 2014 Posted March 26, 2014 I think part of it is that I feel guilty for liking someone who is taken. When I don't have any evidence the "what ifs" become quite troublesome. I totally feel and I think it's only natural to focus on the what if's. But I genuinely think that it in a satisfying situation in which both parties are equally interested, you don't have to be thinking the what if's. At least my teenage years taught me that focussing on that causes me unecessary anguish. As for fancying someone who's taken, we're all guilty of that! Honestly, it's only human but the key thing is that you don't act on it or cross too many boundaries. If someone is flirting with you but isn't telling you they're taken, then the burden of guilt should be on them anyway. 1
Author Ciel0 Posted March 26, 2014 Author Posted March 26, 2014 Thank you so much! It feels good to talk about this, otherwise I'll go crazy worrying about every possible scenario
thecrucible Posted March 26, 2014 Posted March 26, 2014 Thank you so much! It feels good to talk about this, otherwise I'll go crazy worrying about every possible scenario I do exactly the same thing. I totally get what you're saying Try and distract yourself as much as poss. 1
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