Author Fondue Posted March 26, 2014 Author Posted March 26, 2014 Wait a minuet. if you two are thinking of moving in together and going out to the west coast, then you better know that if your girlfriend is that attached to her parents and she has to check in with them every time your out with her, how this is going to fly with her parents. Nice pipe dream but the girl isn't going to up and leave with a ugly guy (according to the parents) to the west coast without some real serious fall out with her family. She's under their thumbnail and I doubt this will happen. Now! The right thing to do and if it were me, I would tell your girlfriend that I find it very disrespectful that she will not introduce you to her family. How in the hell are they going to get to know you if all they see is pictures in her album. She met your family and after eight months of dating, you should have met them a long time ago. It's time and if she wont do it then I would tell her that your that ashamed of me then get lost and find a pretty guy to bring home to mumsy and daddy. By not doing this, she's not giving you a fair shake and if she has to hide you from them, she has issues. I think her parents would be cool with her moving to the west coast if it was for school. She was accepted to a very, very good school which would most likely help her expedite her career. So with that in mind, I believe that move isn't completely out of the question. Although I do definitely understand what you are saying. I did take your advice seriously and I do plan on asking her today if she is ashamed of me, or whatever. That's pretty valid. THank you, sir. Her parents are idiots. How dare they come into that country and hate on the people in it! People like her parents make me sick frankly, they should be on the first plane back to the OWN country. I am all for asylum seekers seeking out a safe refuge but it is just annoying the way some people live in a country where they dislike the people in it. It is baffling. Hey Leigh. Hope all is well. Yah, I have to agree with you here. But I think that's a topic of a different conversation :/. Maybe we just don't understand the culture and it is part of it be so... xenophobic? I am not sure if I even used the word correctly. 1
Stay Posted March 26, 2014 Posted March 26, 2014 I think her parents would be cool with her moving to the west coast if it was for school. She was accepted to a very, very good school which would most likely help her expedite her career. So with that in mind, I believe that move isn't completely out of the question. Although I do definitely understand what you are saying. I did take your advice seriously and I do plan on asking her today if she is ashamed of me, or whatever. That's pretty valid. THank you, sir. Hey Leigh. Hope all is well. Yah, I have to agree with you here. But I think that's a topic of a different conversation :/. Maybe we just don't understand the culture and it is part of it be so... xenophobic? I am not sure if I even used the word correctly. See it like this, some people see it as racist but they might not really mean it like that. I'm not sure about your gf's parents specifically but some asian parents especially non-english speaking ones find it particularly difficult to communicate with people who don't speak their language, this is one of the reasons why they want their kids to marry within their ethnicity. Some if not most asian parents don't show much emotion, you don't get many of them saying I love you or give hugs. This could possibly a situation of that tough love kinda thing where they're just saying that to look out for their daughter and not necessarily anything against you. (This is why I say kill them with kindness, show them what you're capable of) No matter how asian parents are, if you understand their culture and pick up things they will see you differently. Likewise with you, show them how you do things and they'll be very open to things. Just be very respectable to them and specifically towards respecting the elders. They are just very judgmental because they're just looking out for their daughter to see if you're a good match for her, a family oriented person and very caring. That is why you see a lot of people of other culture who have dated a traditionally raised asian person that they are very family oriented and caring. Every single girl I've asked who is white, black, latin, etc. who has dated an asian man has told me they're very caring and family oriented. Likewise with asian girls so unless you already are like that you might want to understand that they're looking at you as a life partner not just any guy.
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