ExposedBrick Posted March 25, 2014 Posted March 25, 2014 I work for a family retail business of about 60 employees. I manage one location and I am interested in dating another manager from another store. We both work at the same level. We actually only see each other once every other month at a lunch meeting for all the management. At the company Christmas party, I was chatting with her and our boss approached us. He actually tried to set us up after learning she was single. However, at the time, I had just started seeing someone exclusively. I have since broke it off either the girl I was seeing. I'd like to ask my co-worker out the next time I see her but I've always heard this was trouble. What do you think since we only see each other a handful of times per year if things don't pan out?
AntiSocal Posted March 25, 2014 Posted March 25, 2014 Life is what you make it. If you're the crazy type or shes the crazy type then this can lead to crazy trouble. If i was you i would just avoid rushing into anything or talking too much. You don't want to kiss and tell and ruin her reputation around the office. You also don't want to tell her all your family secrets and have her blabbing off about you a week later. So if you decide to go through with it keep her at arms length for a while. Also make sure you guys set very clear boundaries from the start. Define the relationship so there is no confusion. Because you guys work together you can't really afford to have either person leave the relationship feeling overly slighted. Will lead to problems.
Hello_is_it_me Posted March 25, 2014 Posted March 25, 2014 If something were to happen and you two break up, is there any way you foresee this giving you trouble at work? Is there a chance either one of you be transferred to the other's location or get a promotion and become the other's supervisor? If not the case, and you're a betting man, I say go for it.
Author ExposedBrick Posted March 25, 2014 Author Posted March 25, 2014 If something were to happen and you two break up, is there any way you foresee this giving you trouble at work? Is there a chance either one of you be transferred to the other's location or get a promotion and become the other's supervisor? If not the case, and you're a betting man, I say go for it. These are great points. I know several people who met spouses at work but I always fear intimacy with a co-worker. No one is perfect but I feel like it could be difficult to reveal any less than ideal qualities about myself. I usually find it difficult to reveal too many details about my personal life to people I date in general. Right or wrong, I feel like people are in a hyper-judgemental state during the first few dates where intimate details can not really be revealed.
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