mellogaylea Posted March 24, 2014 Posted March 24, 2014 I started seeing a guy 2 months ago who I am 10 years older. From day one he started staying at my place the entire time. He was working at the time yet had to wait for his pay for a month. He has borrowed money from me for gas many times to get to work and for paying his cell bill along with other items. He has since quit that job and claims he was screwed out of all the wages. I have been paying all the rent and utilities with no help from him and now the money promiced me does not exsist. He knows what a bind this has caused and to be honest he does not seem to care. I easily have become last on his list of pritorties. Its one thing that so far he has not been able to take me out on a date but the lack of any help from him hurts most. Lately I find myself feeling like a fool, feeling used, and sick with resentment over the entire dynamics. I don't see him seriously trying to manage his life and he is 46. Before me he was living with his mom collecting food stamps and in debt to many. I can't discuss any of this as it only causes him to get hostile or give me a bunch of excuses and false promises. Its eating me up inside and I don't know how to fix things. Please help
thefooloftheyear Posted March 24, 2014 Posted March 24, 2014 Thats too bad.... Sounds like a loser and a hanger on...I wouldnt waste one minute worrying about it...Guys like this never get out of their own way and I have no idea why women pick these guys up off the scrap pile....Lesson learned..Send him back to his mommy...Dont worry, he'll find someone else and the cycle will continue..You cant fix this...Trust me.. Be well... TFY
CarrieT Posted March 25, 2014 Posted March 25, 2014 Pack his stuff up, put it on the curb and change the keys. Why did you even allow this after only two months??? 1
kiss_andmakeup Posted March 25, 2014 Posted March 25, 2014 I don't see him seriously trying to manage his life and he is 46. Before me he was living with his mom collecting food stamps and in debt to many. I can't discuss any of this as it only causes him to get hostile or give me a bunch of excuses and false promises. Its eating me up inside and I don't know how to fix things. Please help So, what did you expect was going to happen when he moved in with you? Same pattern of behaviour, new "mom" (you). He sounds like a loser and the relationship obviously isn't making you happy. Tell him it's over and to pack up his stuff.
Smthn_Like_Olivia Posted March 25, 2014 Posted March 25, 2014 At 46 he is a lost cause, don't waste your time. Put him out and move on. Do you want a man or a dependent?
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