Eddie007 Posted March 24, 2014 Posted March 24, 2014 (edited) You can read my story on my earlier threads. I was dumped after 4 years. She gave no other reason other then she wasn't happy anymore. I'd say she just got bored and wanted something more exciting. I went NC straight away and was able to keep it for 5 months. We have talked via text a few times with me initiating every time. She has never once tried to contact me since she dumped me. The first time I felt I was ready to reach out at 5 months so I did. We had a decent exchange and it ended with me asking to meet up and she said we could soon. A few weeks later I slept with a girl I met on a dating site. I had no intentions of perusing a relationship with her but I did it anyway. I just wanted sex. Afterwards I felt guilty and contacted my ex via text again. I told her I'd like to try again, not to jump back into a relationship but to date again like we did in the beginning. Her response was "I don't know what to say". The final time I reached out was to ask a question about a previous house we rented. I needed the landlords contact info for a reference. She gave me the info and asked how I was. I replied I was great, said thanks and told her to take care, essentially ending the conversation. We never did meet up and I didn't push for it after the initial offer. I've learned a lot about myself in this time. I really let myself get out of shape when I was with her. I've lost over 100lbs since then and adopted a new healthier lifestyle. I'm still friends with her brother and we've been hanging out quite a bit. I never bring her up but he sometimes does in passing. Just last week he mentioned she was still single. I really didn't care. I don't think about her much anymore. I still do but I don't really get that sad feeling. I will say it doesn't sound like either of us has had much luck in the dating world though. I've been on several dates but for one reason or another most have just jerked me around and only want "friends".... I always say thank but no thanks, I'm not looking for friends. I hope everybody hangs in there. It tough but it's manageable. Edited March 24, 2014 by Eddie007
forgetmenot75 Posted March 24, 2014 Posted March 24, 2014 whom are you trying to fool? Yourself? Hanging out with the brother? C'mon, you can't possible move on while you're still "hoping". Or are you telling me you're not hoping? Be honest with yourself. If she's single and still doesn't want to have anything to do to with you, that's enough reason for you to understand there's no way she'll get back to you. 2
barky2 Posted March 24, 2014 Posted March 24, 2014 Big thing that stuck out with me is that you were NC for 5 months and you are the one constantly starting the conversation or " reaching out". If she doesn't do it she's not interested. That's fact. If a person wants to talk to you, they will. Leave the texting,calling or anything and see if she reaches out. You soon will find your answer, but to me, sorry to say it but she's not interested. Barky
yorkie Posted March 24, 2014 Posted March 24, 2014 i can also say it does get better! i also think a short break away helps! get out and meet people you wont want to at first but you end up doing it! end of the day we all move on yes it hurts and hurts like hell at times still at 7 months! but it does get better im in a new relationship and so is my dumper ex who cheated on me. but you know what i wish her all the best! cos i am now only focusing on me now i have decided! get positive and even though you still have days get positive about yourself! forget the relationship and your ex! its over! move on and be happy! love yourself! and be yourself!
Author Eddie007 Posted March 24, 2014 Author Posted March 24, 2014 whom are you trying to fool? Yourself? Hanging out with the brother? C'mon, you can't possible move on while you're still "hoping". Or are you telling me you're not hoping? Be honest with yourself. If she's single and still doesn't want to have anything to do to with you, that's enough reason for you to understand there's no way she'll get back to you. Not trying to fool anyone. Since I hadn't been on here for a while I thought I'd update my story. Don't know why being friends with her brother is a problem. I've known him for more than 20 years.
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