gtiboy Posted March 24, 2014 Posted March 24, 2014 As per title, can outside stresses destabilize a relationship? e.g. someone feeling stressed/depressed about a job situation, but then somehow allow it to effect their thought processes's and begin to apportion the blame for their worries on those closest to them and convince them selves of it, because they can control that situation, unlike the problems the may be up against. So they end up leaving you thinking that it will make them feel better, because they became unhappy for no valid reason. (Other than picking on you over small things to justify a reason to leave you) I'm thinking can this explain some break ups due to one person in the relationship being under undue stress?
Candy_Pants Posted March 24, 2014 Posted March 24, 2014 In short, yes, it can. But that is why both partners need to be mindful of their own stress levels and act accordingly. There will ALWAYS be outside stressors, doesn't mean the relationship needs to fall victim. And I think those who allow to have very little idea of how to decompress (and/or compartmentalize), or are using that as an excuse to end an unwanted relationship.
jba10582 Posted March 24, 2014 Posted March 24, 2014 YES, without a doubt! Months and years of stress can go on, and the partner that is stressed, no matter how much they have developed thick skin, or coping mechanisms like a horse, will at some point project some of this energy which will effect their partner no matter how much they "choose" to be happy. At many levels it is just plain NOT healty. Best advice, go into something you really enjoy and when you go in for an interview, you interview them as well and seriously gage their personalities and if they treat you as person or as an object to accomplish some task. All other healthy ways of living and de-stressing are so important!
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