avoforastig Posted March 24, 2014 Posted March 24, 2014 After a series of absolute strike out dates, I find myself yearning to contact an ex-girlfriend of three years. We have never spoke in person over the phone or in person since the sudden and traumatic breakup about a year and a half ago. About four months after the breakup, she contacted me out of the blue via email. Another 6 or 7 months later she tried to become my facebook friend which I denied. I've been so miserably lonely lately. I find myself constantly in search of a replacement for her, but no one seems to measure up. Do you think it would be awful to initiate contact with her? Maybe it will only dredge bad feelings up, maybe she regrets things too. I'm curious but fearful.
Omei Posted March 24, 2014 Posted March 24, 2014 You're only wanting to contact her because you thought you would have someone by now. Not because you miss her, you've ignored her attempts till you feel lonely now. Re read your own post for your answer.
OhThatGirl Posted March 24, 2014 Posted March 24, 2014 Look, you're having a bad time with dating so you're in search of familiar comfort. Personally I think it's a mistake. That relationship ended for SOME reason and it's likely those issues aren't resolved. Is this really about HER or is it just about being lonely and wanting someone? After a few strike out dates I would encourage you to take a break for a little bit and try again. It only takes 1 non-strike-out date for something great to happen. I'm also fearful that in the past year and a half the ex may have moved on, is seriously dating someone new, and it will end up being another strikeout for you. That, or in the time that has elapsed you've changed and gone your own different ways. You can't go home again. Hang in there.
Author avoforastig Posted March 24, 2014 Author Posted March 24, 2014 Look, you're having a bad time with dating so you're in search of familiar comfort. Personally I think it's a mistake. That relationship ended for SOME reason and it's likely those issues aren't resolved. Is this really about HER or is it just about being lonely and wanting someone? After a few strike out dates I would encourage you to take a break for a little bit and try again. It only takes 1 non-strike-out date for something great to happen. I'm also fearful that in the past year and a half the ex may have moved on, is seriously dating someone new, and it will end up being another strikeout for you. That, or in the time that has elapsed you've changed and gone your own different ways. You can't go home again. Hang in there. Google search led to the unpleasant finding that she is engaged. Pretty ****ty feeling, but ultimately I don't really care. Thanks for the positive words, she was really dragging me and probably someone new down, way down.
David87 Posted March 24, 2014 Posted March 24, 2014 I agree with the 2 posts above. You feel lonley and your dating isn't going that well, that's why you want to go bac to something familiar and comfortable. Don't do it. If you realy meant it you shouldn't have ignored her adapts to reconnect, but you did.
OhThatGirl Posted March 24, 2014 Posted March 24, 2014 Google search led to the unpleasant finding that she is engaged. Pretty ****ty feeling, but ultimately I don't really care. Thanks for the positive words, she was really dragging me and probably someone new down, way down. Well then good it's not you she's dragging down any longer. Keep going. But in the meantime do a bunch of stuff that makes seratonin abundant. Fun stuff. You're going to need the smiles to grab the attention of the right girl.
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