youngbutoldsoul Posted March 23, 2014 Posted March 23, 2014 It's been almost a year since he left me to explore the dating world. I was his first everything and after 2 years together I thought I was as special as he made me out to be. Yet he hasn't looked back since leaving. Almost 9 months No Contact. Any hope?
ponchsox Posted March 23, 2014 Posted March 23, 2014 Why are you holding out hope for someone who is long gone? 1
Mr.Pine Posted March 23, 2014 Posted March 23, 2014 Almost 9 months No Contact. Any hope? When I was very young... in my early 20s, I broke up with a lovely young lass. We dated 6 months, had our ups and downs, and eventually I was kicked to the curb for general douchebaggery on my part. 3 weeks went by with NC and I caved and sent the florist guy 'round her way. No response. A day later, I called her. This was wayyyyyy before texting was around. People actually had to pick up a phone to dial out. It's been 20 years, but I remember the conversation like it was a minute ago: Me: Hello. How are you? Did you get my floral arrangement and card? Lovely Young Lass: Pine, how long has it been since we last spoke? Me: I dunno. Like 3 weeks? Lovely Young Lass: Get the picture?!?! CLICK!! Old soul...it's been 9 months since you last spoke. Get the picture? 6
Sandy99 Posted March 23, 2014 Posted March 23, 2014 The only way to find out if there is hope is if you contact him. Send an email. You would need a psychic to tell you whether or not this is a good idea. Good luck. I can think of at least one time I contacted an ex months after a break up and it was a great idea for different reasons and he was more than pleased to hear from me. I can't imagine how I would have eventually gotten over that relationship without his help. The worst that is going to happen is that he doesn't want to talk to you and then you'll just be back to where you are now. So what difference does it make?
Haydn Posted March 23, 2014 Posted March 23, 2014 No, why would you think so? He is not waiting for you, so why are you waiting for him? It's been almost a year since he left me to explore the dating world. I was his first everything and after 2 years together I thought I was as special as he made me out to be. Yet he hasn't looked back since leaving. Almost 9 months No Contact. Any hope? 1
singme2sleep Posted March 24, 2014 Posted March 24, 2014 When I was very young... in my early 20s, I broke up with a lovely young lass. We dated 6 months, had our ups and downs, and eventually I was kicked to the curb for general douchebaggery on my part. 3 weeks went by with NC and I caved and sent the florist guy 'round her way. No response. A day later, I called her. This was wayyyyyy before texting was around. People actually had to pick up a phone to dial out. It's been 20 years, but I remember the conversation like it was a minute ago: Me: Hello. How are you? Did you get my floral arrangement and card? Lovely Young Lass: Pine, how long has it been since we last spoke? Me: I dunno. Like 3 weeks? Lovely Young Lass: Get the picture?!?! CLICK!! Old soul...it's been 9 months since you last spoke. Get the picture? Ouch! And damn that was bitchy of her :-( 1
Author youngbutoldsoul Posted March 24, 2014 Author Posted March 24, 2014 You are all right. So it doesn't change anything or make me any more special to him that I was his first everything? I really still think of him as my future husband some day and life just does not seem right this whole year without him, despite my personal successes and accomplishments...
Simon Phoenix Posted March 24, 2014 Posted March 24, 2014 You are all right. So it doesn't change anything or make me any more special to him that I was his first everything? I really still think of him as my future husband some day and life just does not seem right this whole year without him, despite my personal successes and accomplishments... Honestly, no, a lot of guys don't put that much emphasis on being the "first". I would guess that he's more concerned about the "current" or "last" instead of the first. He hasn't spoken to you in nine months -- that speaks volumes. It's up to him to make any move, but you shouldn't be holding out hope that he will do so. You can't retard your life and your personal growth for a guy who has moved on and has given absolutely no indication that he sees you as a priority. Stop putting your life on hold. 2
BC1980 Posted March 25, 2014 Posted March 25, 2014 9 months NC and still holding onto hope. You've got to change your way of thinking. 2
HeartbrokenNewbie Posted March 25, 2014 Posted March 25, 2014 I think this may be lingering due to nostalgia and loneliness... I reckon getting back out dating may help now x 1
David87 Posted March 25, 2014 Posted March 25, 2014 I think this may be lingering due to nostalgia and loneliness... I reckon getting back out dating may help now x I think it's just loneliness.
martaldn Posted March 25, 2014 Posted March 25, 2014 When I was very young... in my early 20s, I broke up with a lovely young lass. We dated 6 months, had our ups and downs, and eventually I was kicked to the curb for general douchebaggery on my part. 3 weeks went by with NC and I caved and sent the florist guy 'round her way. No response. A day later, I called her. This was wayyyyyy before texting was around. People actually had to pick up a phone to dial out. It's been 20 years, but I remember the conversation like it was a minute ago: Me: Hello. How are you? Did you get my floral arrangement and card? Lovely Young Lass: Pine, how long has it been since we last spoke? Me: I dunno. Like 3 weeks? Lovely Young Lass: Get the picture?!?! CLICK!! Old soul...it's been 9 months since you last spoke. Get the picture? aww Im sorry - Old Soul I think there is a very little hope things could change at this stage and I think you should keep going on with your life and try to be happy without him if things will chance in the future nobody can tell but you cant live waiting for the past to come back good luck 1
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