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Why is it so hard to find a good date post LTR?


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I've been on several dates since my last 1.5 year relationship which ended 6 months ago. Nobody has come close to what my ex gf was and the attraction we had. I'm starting to worry I will never find someone good enough? I hate being alone but I'm picky and won't settle.

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I've been on several dates since my last 1.5 year relationship which ended 6 months ago. Nobody has come close to what my ex gf was and the attraction we had. I'm starting to worry I will never find someone good enough? I hate being alone but I'm picky and won't settle.
With this thinking you will never find. Each relationship and each person is unique so each experience is unique.

 

Also, you cannot find that special feeling within a few dates. You are comparing a connection of 1.5 year to casual dating. You need to give it time to grow and develop into something special.

 

6 months is nothing in a life time. Learn to be happy with yourself first, this can take 1-2-3-4 years depending on the person.

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I'm in exactly the same spot right now. Five months post-breakup, meeting prospects, been on a few dates, but no one really suitable yet.

 

However, as I fine-tune myself and go for it more in my life, get myself lit up and in my zone, I'm getting closer all the time. It feels good to be selective and hold out for a good match, rather than just take the next person who comes along as a comfort to being alone.

 

I'm also focusing right now on just making new friends, meeting new people, doing things that are fun for me. My best relationships have started as friendships that naturally grew into more.

 

You'll meet someone great! Just keep looking and focusing on what you want.

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I'm in exactly the same spot right now. Five months post-breakup, meeting prospects, been on a few dates, but no one really suitable yet.

 

However, as I fine-tune myself and go for it more in my life, get myself lit up and in my zone, I'm getting closer all the time. It feels good to be selective and hold out for a good match, rather than just take the next person who comes along as a comfort to being alone.

 

I'm also focusing right now on just making new friends, meeting new people, doing things that are fun for me. My best relationships have started as friendships that naturally grew into more.

 

You'll meet someone great! Just keep looking and focusing on what you want.

 

Thanks for the words of encouragement. You have a great attitude about it.

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OP...you broke up 6 months ago and you are already back in it? Hmmm....am sure you've heard the saying "time heals all wounds"? You need to give yourself time to reflect and catch your breath i.e. ponder what went wrong in the LTR, and what you want to be different this time moving forward

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