Sully76065 Posted March 23, 2014 Posted March 23, 2014 My wife and I have been together for 20+ years. Married for about 9. She had a 4 year old child when we met that I raised as my own son. We have a beautiful 14 tear old daughter Sierra. Things are headed south. We've had a couple of businesses together that have always done faiir. The last business went south after 8 years and we've now got a 97K judgement against us. We've both taken jobs. She has never had any concept of financial responsibility and we are in deep $$ crap. I have to take some responsibility here as I could have been more involved with the "business" side of things. It is just hard pushing up hill all the time as she does not ever drive the money side of any of our ventures. The stress has made me do some crazy outburst kind of things. The last one with me throwing a glass at a table after drinking and yelling etc. There have been a few of these shouting matches. NOTHING is ever her fault according to her. Even though she's admitted to running the last business into the ground. Half my fault for allowing it. I knew there were some things I should have done but did not. I truly do not want a divorce but we may be past that point. Together we earn 90K with our employment. Me 70, her 20. This drives me nuts as she is capable of earning so much more. She just never believes in herself. I've been in sales and marketing for 25+ years so am always the driving and pushing force. I am the reason income comes in, she she the organizer and paperwork end of our businesses (something I suck at). I consider her 50% of our success because of this. It is just as critical in business as sales. She's the typical B type, I'm the A type. After our Real Estate business in California during the housing bubble we made enough to move to Texas and pay cash for a $229K beautiful 3300 sqft home with all the whistles and bells. Since then we've went 93K in debt on it. The business at it's peak earned 163K in it's best year. South after that due to the economy. I could have taken steps but did not. We both smoked pot all the time. We stopped that. The wife is seriously thinking about divorce after my last outburst. (it wasn't the first time I got drunk and yelled) It always happens after we've been drinking. I've now stopped (and yes I drank to much regularly) but probably too late. Losing my family, my home, my assets and my entire world will be devastating. She's at a Volleyball tournament with my daughter in Houston right now. We are in serious financial trouble and she spent 500+ on this weekend. There is $150 left in the bank. I took out $400 in cash to ensure we could buy food and gas for until I get paid again. She finally sat down after 8 months of begging and we put a budget on paper. She went to Houston and blew cash like we had it anyway Not really sure what to do or why I'm even on this forum. Just need to vent maybe. I'm seeking counseling at a church and possibly a lawyer to learn what might be coming. Life sucks right now. I'm in a high stress job I hate with a new manager I also hate. It's tough when you're used to being the boss and your new boss is terrible. In 6 months the new boss has had three HR filings one by me. The corporation found her at fault just to set the record straight on that. The entire depart was called together (some flown in) and the picture painted was clear. She's a control freak with three jobs in three years. Haven't drank in a week (yes admittedly I've add a drinking problem), trying to get my **** together. I need to start another company. I make more money that way and can bury myself into work and stop laying in bed at night not sleeping. The wife moved to another bedroom upstairs. My daughter hates me. That's the hardest part. I even thought of blowing my head off while laying in bed one night. That's for pussy's. Where would Stacy and Sierra be then. I quickly squashed that idea. If I lose them both I want to ensure they do not end up in poverty. They'll need my help financially. If anyone is Christian I could use prayers. Thanks for listening.
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