Jay779 Posted March 23, 2014 Posted March 23, 2014 (edited) Well, on friday night, we went on a date and afterwards we went back to her house. We have been dating for about 1.5 months and well, she started to massage my head and then she sort of just went in for a kiss and it was great. We didn't even make out, we just started cuddling and hugging while kissing on the cheek and pecks on the lips. Nothing else happened at all. Well, yesterday, she sent me a text saying we are moving too fast and she is afraid we will have sex. What the hell is this? I thought we were moving slow as it is and now I get this? 1.5 months and no kissing is a pretty long time if you ask me. We didn't even makeout, just pecks on the lips. She's never had a boyfriend before so maybe this is why she is acting this way? She basically told me that we need to slow down and go back to just holding hands and kissing on the cheek at the end of dates. We are both 22 if that helps. I really like this girl a lot, but what she told me is kind of putting me off. I dont even want to force her into sex, but if she thinks kissing is moving too fast, I dont know what to think. What makes it even more confusing is she was the one who went in for the first kiss. Now she regrets it? Edited March 23, 2014 by Jay779
smackie9 Posted March 23, 2014 Posted March 23, 2014 It's simple, you both have different expectations, so you need to move on despite your feelings for her. You have to be realistic, she is not on the level of experience as you are, and why should you put your needs aside to wait for her to catch up. If you are expecting sex sometime soon, you are with the wrong girl.
mammasita Posted March 23, 2014 Posted March 23, 2014 How experienced is she? Is she really religious? I'm shocked that she's afraid you're moving too fast, but based on the answers to the above questions you might have the answer.
Author Jay779 Posted March 23, 2014 Author Posted March 23, 2014 How experienced is she? Is she really religious? I'm shocked that she's afraid you're moving too fast, but based on the answers to the above questions you might have the answer. Zero experience, not religious at all.
GoreSP Posted March 23, 2014 Posted March 23, 2014 If she feels it's going too fast, then you need to respect that. The fact you are complaining about not having kissed her at this point makes me wonder when you'll start complaining you haven't had sex yet...
Weallwalkthelongroad Posted March 23, 2014 Posted March 23, 2014 Ahhh...the moving too fast line. It's a doozy. I had that line dropped on me after a month of dating. And this was a short lived relationship that included us being intimate on multiple occasions. And on a couple of these occasions, she initiated it. I was willing to slow it down but her idea of slowing it down, was ignoring me and ending it. If you really like her and are ok with going at her pace, I say slow it down and see where it goes. Be glad that you haven't become too physical just yet because the more you get to know her at her pace, I think the better it will end up being in the long run.
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