Sunfire73 Posted March 24, 2014 Posted March 24, 2014 Even if his kids are teens, we don't know how ready are they for them to meet their father's date. So I'm not going to judge that. Some kids have a hard time adjusting, so it's the parent's call when it's a good time to meet each other's kids. Maybe the dad wants to make sure this is a long-term relationship before he can tell the kids. I'm not gonna push the issue, until at least 6 months. Kids are a different reality. They have feelings too so they should not be dealt lightly.
smackie9 Posted March 25, 2014 Posted March 25, 2014 Wow, did you make me step back & think. lol I guess I'm really not ok with if I really think about it. I can live without us meeting each others kids. But I really want to see him more. And here I was thinking just today to give it more time. When we are together he shows me he likes me. And just earlier he text me from work & we chatted for a bit, so it isn't all one sided. If I give it a little bit longer before I mention anything then he will really think I'm ok with seeing him only once a week, right? Ugh...lol Hmmm so things are coming to the surface? Communication is key with all relationships. I suggest you go over your expectations and then have a conversation with him about it. Why give him all the control on how this relationship progresses? You keep your mouth shut for fear of him dumping you? If this is the case this relationship is heading down a dark road. 1
FitChick Posted March 25, 2014 Posted March 25, 2014 Ask him if his previous girlfriends met his kids. If yes, how long before that happened?
Author momx4 Posted March 26, 2014 Author Posted March 26, 2014 Ask him if his previous girlfriends met his kids. If yes, how long before that happened? This is what I thought, too. But is it weird if I ask him since I did ask him a couple weeks ago what he thought about meeting each others kids & he said he's in no rush? I just don't want him to feel like I'm pushing for that.
Gaeta Posted March 26, 2014 Posted March 26, 2014 This is what I thought, too. But is it weird if I ask him since I did ask him a couple weeks ago what he thought about meeting each others kids & he said he's in no rush? I just don't want him to feel like I'm pushing for that. I think your priority here is to spend more time with him. At the speed you are seeing each other he won't be ready to introduce his children for another year and this relationship will never get off the ground. I don't think a 14 yo and an 18 yo are preventing him from spending more time with you. It's just convenient to use them as an excuse. 1
Author momx4 Posted March 26, 2014 Author Posted March 26, 2014 Yeah, my priority is seeing him more. Meeting the kids can come later. I plan on talking to him Saturday when we are together. It's just something I want to talk with him about in person. 1
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