Fondue Posted March 23, 2014 Posted March 23, 2014 It seems like we're all guilty of it. It sucks. Most of our issues stem from the fact that we simply OVER-THINK things.... When in reality, they're just simple. This picture is quite a good illustration of that: His & Her Diary From the Same Day - Imgur Let's all take a step back. For example: Instead of assuming that a late text response somehow means they lack interest, are with someone else, or are in some tragic accident, just be patient and assume that maybe they're busy at work, forgot their phone at home/car, at the gym, battery died, etc. Who's with me? 2
iris219 Posted March 23, 2014 Posted March 23, 2014 It seems like we're all guilty of it. It sucks. Most of our issues stem from the fact that we simply OVER-THINK things.... When in reality, they're just simple. This picture is quite a good illustration of that: His & Her Diary From the Same Day - Imgur The illustration argues that WOMEN over analyze things, not men. Are you saying women need to stop doing this?
xxoo Posted March 23, 2014 Posted March 23, 2014 The illustration argues that WOMEN over analyze things, not men. Are you saying women need to stop doing this? The man is over-analyzing his motorcycle And the whole thing could be cleared up with two sentences: "Sorry if I seem distracted. I'm obsessing about my motorcycle." Amusingly, my H sent me that picture a couple months ago as an inside joke about us. 3
OpenBook Posted March 23, 2014 Posted March 23, 2014 The illustration argues that WOMEN over analyze things, not men. It also illustrates that men can be completely insensitive to their women. I see nothing wrong with men retreating into their "caves" - just let us know already??!? We can't read your minds... and you can't read ours either. We have to COMMUNICATE with each other every now & then. And the whole thing could be cleared up with two sentences: "Sorry if I seem distracted. I'm obsessing about my motorcycle." Yeah, no kidding! Although in manspeak it might come out more like, "I'm just thinking about how to fix the bike." Of course, if we are any kind of decent girlfriend/wife, we would know to leave him alone at this point instead of pestering him with questions or trying to distract him/draw him out. Men are like hibernating bears when they go into their caves; it can be dangerous to engage or provoke them.
TaraMaiden Posted March 23, 2014 Posted March 23, 2014 It's only because women hyper-analyse that we know exactly what men are like..... How else could we possibly know 'man-caves' exist....?
GemmaUK Posted March 23, 2014 Posted March 23, 2014 I'm so with you OP! I am not a man...but I have my own plush cave..with cushions and candles...
TheGuard13 Posted March 24, 2014 Posted March 24, 2014 Hurrah! Now we have a thread overanalyzing the concept of overanalyzing. 3
MercuryMorrison1 Posted March 24, 2014 Posted March 24, 2014 I'm very guilty of this. I hate that I over analyze the way I do sometimes. My girlfriend and I recently discussed this and often times in our conversations she ask's me to please stop analyzing so much. Its a hard habit to break. It really truly is.
salparadise Posted March 24, 2014 Posted March 24, 2014 The illustration argues that WOMEN over analyze things, not men. Are you saying women need to stop doing this? The gender roles could just as easily be reversed. The problem is that she is making up stories in her head based on a set of assumptions. The assumptions are based on fear and insecurities. So the takeaway is, don't make unfounded assumptions and don't make up stories in your head. An objective analysis might yield a more neutral result, like... "something is on his mind but I have no information as to what it might be. How can I pose a question in such a way that he will feel comfortable telling me exactly what it is?"
ctxinfl Posted March 24, 2014 Posted March 24, 2014 So in a thread about over-analyzing it seems most are over-analyzing. Don't get hung up on who was doing what in the diary entries. Look at the big picture.
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