iseestars Posted March 23, 2014 Posted March 23, 2014 i got a little drunk and told this girl how I feel, and her response was "id rather keep things how they are and see what life brings me," and I just asked if she was interested and she said "I dont want to answer that and I just want to do it" and she told me to be spontaneous. I dont know if she was being nice and didnt wanna hurt me, but I told her I rather she break my heart than leave it like that or is she still unsure herself or what? any thought will be appreciated.
Ninjainpajamas Posted March 23, 2014 Posted March 23, 2014 Kind of the fence there, but that first response was indifferent or a lack of interest that was definite. Basically if you've got game, now's the time to use it. You've probably been beating the around the bush for quite some time now with her? or did you just kind of surprise her and she doesn't know you very well? Women have a keypad, and it takes a pin-code to open that emotional door...so if you can figure that out, you have a chance of altering her perception of you in a romantic way if you don't linger in whatever zone you are in right now too long...but keep in mind she also might be telling you that she isn't all that interested, but no matter for you it's make it or break it if you want to actually date this girl...I wouldn't let that deter you, try to see if you can "sweep her off her feet", spend time with her, see if there's a connection, ask her out and don't be overly interested, just play it cool and see what develops...that's what she wants to feel is happening naturally, and if pushing the right buttons then maybe she'll start taking a liking towards you. Whatever you do, don't pussy foot around and just friendzone yourself, that works for very few guys over a long @ss period of time, but don't be that guy, it makes me angry with you even the thought of it, get the balls and take a chance, get it out of the way now and find out.
Author iseestars Posted March 23, 2014 Author Posted March 23, 2014 We have always flirted but another guy came into the picture so I turned things up more. My game ain't the greatest n n even though I turned up the flirting I feel this did catch her off gaurd. We send pics to each other but nothing naked but she sends sum Sexy pics. I haven't texted her since that night and I still haven't heard from her. I wish it didn't go down like this so I'm backing off a bit but I will see her in person this upcoming week but unsure on how to act
GemmaUK Posted March 23, 2014 Posted March 23, 2014 i got a little drunk and told this girl how I feel, and her response was "id rather keep things how they are and see what life brings me," and I just asked if she was interested and she said "I dont want to answer that and I just want to do it" and she told me to be spontaneous. I dont know if she was being nice and didnt wanna hurt me, but I told her I rather she break my heart than leave it like that or is she still unsure herself or what? any thought will be appreciated. Her first reply = she would rather you and she stay how you are and she is waiting for something else to come along. Her second reply = just go for it with her right now/then. Sounds like she liked you but wante some 'action' which never happened. At this point in time it could be too late to try. Also, I get the feeling that even if you did just go for it there could be something wrong in her eyes. This kind of woman isn't the kind you want in your life though. Not for anything serious anyway. There's too many conflicting messages coming out in what she has said here. How long has this been going on? 1
Author iseestars Posted March 23, 2014 Author Posted March 23, 2014 Pry about a month and a half she is kinda wit sum body too. But I'm really into her
Ninjainpajamas Posted March 24, 2014 Posted March 24, 2014 We have always flirted but another guy came into the picture so I turned things up more. My game ain't the greatest n n even though I turned up the flirting I feel this did catch her off gaurd. We send pics to each other but nothing naked but she sends sum Sexy pics. I haven't texted her since that night and I still haven't heard from her. I wish it didn't go down like this so I'm backing off a bit but I will see her in person this upcoming week but unsure on how to act Don't think too much into that, there's a lot of women out there that are young (I'm assuming you're a pretty young guy) that just feed off the attention and validation that they're attractive and sexy to me, but they might kind of see it as a playful tease rather than an open door that they're really interested. At any rate, you can't linger...young women are impatient and want instant gratification with guys, once their gaze goes away from you their eyes are already on another guy and if you were competing for her attention then you'd just have to make your moves and lock the other guys out. This is just normal young people stuff, nobody really is sure what they want and everybody gets something out of these little moments and she feeds off the intention, you're going to have to be more assertive and bold to separate yourself from the other guys or you'll just end up in her line-up of men she flirts with on a regular basis whom she all calls "friends".
topaMAXX Posted March 24, 2014 Posted March 24, 2014 Her first reply = she would rather you and she stay how you are and she is waiting for something else to come along. Her second reply = just go for it with her right now/then. Sounds like she liked you but wante some 'action' which never happened. At this point in time it could be too late to try. Also, I get the feeling that even if you did just go for it there could be something wrong in her eyes. This kind of woman isn't the kind you want in your life though. Not for anything serious anyway. There's too many conflicting messages coming out in what she has said here. How long has this been going on? I agree with the bolded. Sounds like she only wants the D. If you're okay with that, then go for it. If not, then fall back.
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