Silver93 Posted March 22, 2014 Posted March 22, 2014 Recently I have been feeling like I am not good enough for a girlfriend. I know my confidence would be quite low but I feel that if I were to get a girlfriend then I would do something to ruin it. It makes approaching girls I like quite difficult. If I don't have a girlfriend then I can't ruin anything. Thanks for reading.
quidproquo89 Posted March 22, 2014 Posted March 22, 2014 Why is your confidence low, have you come out of a relationship? You get better and learn more as you go on. Knowledge and confidence are hugely important. Would you not rather ask for advice on how to approach and date girls? Sorry to hear you having confidence issues, it isn't easy approaching/dating or keeping a relationship. It takes time, effort, know how and a little luck. You'll get there, chin up son. Try and just get out there and be socialable/make conversations with everyone. Not just girls. Often you meet girls through friends anyway, so just be socialable 1
Author Silver93 Posted March 22, 2014 Author Posted March 22, 2014 Why is your confidence low, have you come out of a relationship? You get better and learn more as you go on. Knowledge and confidence are hugely important. Would you not rather ask for advice on how to approach and date girls? Sorry to hear you having confidence issues, it isn't easy approaching/dating or keeping a relationship. It takes time, effort, know how and a little luck. You'll get there, chin up son. Try and just get out there and be socialable/make conversations with everyone. Not just girls. Often you meet girls through friends anyway, so just be socialable I have never been in a relationship before which could be where my nerves come from. I would be quite self conscience which makes me think that I might do something small that would put a girl off or annoy her.
quidproquo89 Posted March 22, 2014 Posted March 22, 2014 nerves in that case is natural, theres nothing wrong with that feeling. You just need practise. Are you a good conversationalist? Try and get some practise with that and once you get good at it, use it on girls. Making an effort to talk to a girl on even the most simple things shouldn't annoy her unless she isn't a nice person, which if that was the case you wouldn't want anything to do with her anyway. Girls don't like desperation, so if you do get a girls number, text occasionally and wait for responses. You got to try and be comfortable with yourself, try to be calm, conversational and your in. Humour is also a winner as long as its tasteful 1
Assasda Posted March 22, 2014 Posted March 22, 2014 Well you shouldnt have a girlfriend then. Work on your life
Titania22 Posted March 22, 2014 Posted March 22, 2014 Recently I have been feeling like I am not good enough for a girlfriend. I know my confidence would be quite low but I feel that if I were to get a girlfriend then I would do something to ruin it. It makes approaching girls I like quite difficult. If I don't have a girlfriend then I can't ruin anything. Thanks for reading. Maybe the girl would do something to ruin it. Girls aren't perfect either. 2
quidproquo89 Posted March 22, 2014 Posted March 22, 2014 Well you shouldnt have a girlfriend then. Work on your life bit harshly put, but a good point. If your doing well sociably, workwise and income etc, you'll probably fair better and find it easier to date
Author Silver93 Posted March 22, 2014 Author Posted March 22, 2014 Maybe the girl would do something to ruin it. Girls aren't perfect either. I am worried about me ruining it by something small or a series of small things. If I liked a girl then there isn't much she could do that could ruin it. That's just the way I am.
organizedchaos Posted March 22, 2014 Posted March 22, 2014 I am worried about me ruining it by something small or a series of small things. If I liked a girl then there isn't much she could do that could ruin it. That's just the way I am. How old are you?
Titania22 Posted March 22, 2014 Posted March 22, 2014 I am worried about me ruining it by something small or a series of small things. If I liked a girl then there isn't much she could do that could ruin it. That's just the way I am. Well it's quite possible, if you don't have experience. Accept that you probably will ruin it, and go ahead anyway. It's the only way to learn. And the experience won't be all bad. As for attracting girls I have no idea. I have enough trouble with the boys. Sorry. 2
Mr. Nibbles Posted March 22, 2014 Posted March 22, 2014 I am 20 This is good to know. You obviously are interested in a relationship enough to research how they work. Good for you. Hopefully your next gf/bf/ or whatever appreciates the effort you put into learning about how to interface with others. Start working on your compliments. Everyone loves a compliment. Start complimenting EVERYONE. Pick simple stuff and keep it simple. People will notice that you are a positive-type person and will like you and you will eventually meet someone who will like you back. It's pretty simple. You can break their hearts and have angst about failed relationships later, but the important part is not giving up if you have love in your heart to share.
mammasita Posted March 23, 2014 Posted March 23, 2014 Nobody is perfect.....live and learn. Talk, read, socialize, interact. Beating yourself down thinking you're not good enough will get you nowhere fast.
preraph Posted March 23, 2014 Posted March 23, 2014 Do you have a circle of friends? If not and you feel you're not very social, then first just work on being friendly and approachable and making just male friends to hang out with and get used to that and then that will eventually put you more at ease and also bring you into contact with women. If I'm way off base and you are at ease and have a nice circle of friends, then just be yourself but be open and approachable and friendly but casual without any particular goal in mind but just to kind of talk to and get to know people and things will gradually fall into place, i bet. 1
Bantosm Posted March 24, 2014 Posted March 24, 2014 For the op, to answer your title question I quote Henry Ford: "If you think you can do a thing or think you can't do a thing, you're right."
Targetlock Posted March 24, 2014 Posted March 24, 2014 i also have the same issues and it seems to be all about confidence, sadly not my strong point so yeah i know what its like. just got to keep working at it i guess.
Esoteric Elf Posted March 25, 2014 Posted March 25, 2014 Recently I have been feeling like I am not good enough for a girlfriend. I know my confidence would be quite low but I feel that if I were to get a girlfriend then I would do something to ruin it. It makes approaching girls I like quite difficult. If I don't have a girlfriend then I can't ruin anything. Thanks for reading. Same here, man. Same here.
topaMAXX Posted March 25, 2014 Posted March 25, 2014 i also have the same issues and it seems to be all about confidence, sadly not my strong point so yeah i know what its like. just got to keep working at it i guess. Fake it til you make it.
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