Superman2024 Posted March 22, 2014 Posted March 22, 2014 Does it seem better to meet people through OLD or mutual friends and family members giving suggestions? It seems like it would be an advantage to have some sort of connection with someone from the beginning but maybe it really doesn't matter.
smackie9 Posted March 22, 2014 Posted March 22, 2014 That's how I met my husband, so yes it is an advantage.....well it's a good place to start. Online dating is like playing Russian roulette, it has bigger risks of being bamboozled.
PogoStick Posted March 22, 2014 Posted March 22, 2014 It's a big advantage (for both of you) to meet through people you already know.
Fondue Posted March 22, 2014 Posted March 22, 2014 I liked meeting women online, actually. It got me into a few new social circles. I made friends with some of their friends. Which just made for a happier life. I wouldn't shy away from OLD.
Author Superman2024 Posted March 22, 2014 Author Posted March 22, 2014 I tend to think it's a little better meeting through a connection. When someone makes a suggestion to me and I'm not interested or don't pursue it hopefully they don't get offended though. I see some good potential prospects online but some sites seem to have issues with fake profiles (Zoosk) or lots of inactive ones.
FitChick Posted March 23, 2014 Posted March 23, 2014 Your friend might feel insulted if you didn't like the person they set you up with. You might feel insulted, too. A friend tried to set me up with a guy who, while an aristocrat living in a stately home, was an alcoholic with two illegitimate kids and reputation for cheating. WTF?
HappyLove Posted March 23, 2014 Posted March 23, 2014 Your friend might feel insulted if you didn't like the person they set you up with. You might feel insulted, too. A friend tried to set me up with a guy who, while an aristocrat living in a stately home, was an alcoholic with two illegitimate kids and reputation for cheating. WTF? Well guess what? There are alcoholics galore online! I don't drink ever just never have and I'd be thinking oh here's a guy who doesn't drink either.... The last two guys I dated from online turned out to be former alcoholics. I'd go with meeting people IRL over OLDing EVERY TIME! OLDing is a nightmare 9 out of 10 times unless you're extremely lucky.
OhThatGirl Posted March 23, 2014 Posted March 23, 2014 Your friend might feel insulted if you didn't like the person they set you up with. You might feel insulted, too. A friend tried to set me up with a guy who, while an aristocrat living in a stately home, was an alcoholic with two illegitimate kids and reputation for cheating. WTF? Hahaha. I have had this problem too. Friends and family have tried to set me up with a couple of "great" guys... It makes me seriously question how well they know me or how much they care for me. I prefer OLD. Much bigger pool of people to pick from, easy to go separate ways if there is no chemistry. And actually, the men I want to date are usually pretty different from the people I keep as friends... Maybe a little bizarre but whatever.
smackie9 Posted March 23, 2014 Posted March 23, 2014 I can see the internet being convenient way to meet people, I just keep hearing negative things about it. On the flip side I get blasted from certain posters for recommending it as a way to help those who have trouble socially.
irc333 Posted March 23, 2014 Posted March 23, 2014 Yeah, but considering how some men get little or no responses and it's a sheer numbers game, online dating is not entirely desirable as an option. I much prefer connections through social circles....Meetup.com has lead me to that...and even some spin off event gatherings that were non-Meetup related. It's really formed some nice bonds with others, plus its more intimate. You have body language, voice tones, mannerisms, etc in person as opposed to online. You can easily feel more of a chemistry in this case, plus you can sometimes get to know the person face to face in a more natural environment. None of this awkward "meeting strangers as you sit for the first time, face to face at a location trying to make up stuff to talk about" (granted you even DO meet in person and not have an indefinite number of online pen pals, lol) I can see the internet being convenient way to meet people, I just keep hearing negative things about it. On the flip side I get blasted from certain posters for recommending it as a way to help those who have trouble socially.
deathandtaxes Posted March 23, 2014 Posted March 23, 2014 I can see the internet being convenient way to meet people, I just keep hearing negative things about it. On the flip side I get blasted from certain posters for recommending it as a way to help those who have trouble socially. OLD is a great tool, but I think those people who have trouble socially will still find it very difficult using OLD. OLD might help them score a date, but then those social skills come into play. OP - I say use any and every means at your disposal if you're trying to date. OLD will help you find people you wouldn't normally meet. Friends are great because usually they can pre-screen people and put in a good word for you.
smackie9 Posted March 23, 2014 Posted March 23, 2014 (edited) I found my best dates in a social setting, like at a party, a concert, hanging out with friends, etc. The more active you are, the better your chances. As for being blasted about OLD, it was from those who had bad experiences, they weren't blasting me about suggesting it to socially inept people, it was just the fact I brought up OLD. People who have trouble socially will find themselves finding it easier to communicate with others on the net, and use it as a step in improving their social skills. Edited March 23, 2014 by smackie9
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