Chatmonkey Posted March 22, 2014 Posted March 22, 2014 (edited) Well, once every few weeks I dream about my ex. It's a bit annoying too because a few days ago I was just chilling in a park and thought to myself wow i think this might be the moment that I am actually over her. And then this happens! I didn't even remember the dream for about 5 mins after waking but I felt like crap and I didnt even know why! Then i remembered... It even had me returning from being away (which would make sense since we had a long distance relationship), then we are pretty much just about to have sex and she just leaves the room. After a while i wonder where she's gone and she's like... It's not working out. I actually got broken up with more than once in this from different people - It seems like this dream is telling me I must have some sort of deep down anxiety of getting broken up with again. Sound about right? I mean I don't take it any worse than anyone else who gets broken up with though.. yeah i was sad.. but you get over it like i slowly am now. So it's a bit strange. This even had an old best friend in it from about 3 years ago that didnt end well (who i actually also dream about once every few months...) So a double whammy here... Does anyone else here experience dreaming like this? PS: I'm in the states right now till end of march 2015 and I left without seeing her. She asked to see me but i told her no and that was the last we spoke (via text). I have been here for a bit over a month now. Edited March 22, 2014 by Chatmonkey
KaliLove Posted March 22, 2014 Posted March 22, 2014 Your brain is spring cleaning itself. This is a good thing!
anemptycup Posted March 22, 2014 Posted March 22, 2014 I'm 2 1/5 months into my break-up - dream of her every night - it really sucks... waking up depressed... and then slowly winding up back into the day... at least it's not every day for you! but i feel with you - i'm sure it's just a matter of time - how long ago did you break-up?
Author Chatmonkey Posted March 22, 2014 Author Posted March 22, 2014 Your brain is spring cleaning itself. This is a good thing! Really? Is this how the brain works when it's getting over some sort of trauma?
Author Chatmonkey Posted March 22, 2014 Author Posted March 22, 2014 I'm 2 1/5 months into my break-up - dream of her every night - it really sucks... waking up depressed... and then slowly winding up back into the day... at least it's not every day for you! but i feel with you - i'm sure it's just a matter of time - how long ago did you break-up? almost 7 months ago... I can't believe it has been so long already
iDrumKing Posted March 22, 2014 Posted March 22, 2014 Just give it time. Your mind is just processing things. Really. It's nothing to act off of. After my BU I had dreams every night of her hooking up with someone new, so I know it blows, but it's because a lot happened and my mind is just getting things sorted. Like I said don't act off of it.
Amaury Posted March 22, 2014 Posted March 22, 2014 almost 7 months ago... I can't believe it has been so long already Im in the same (almost) position as you my friend. Broke up almost 8 months ago, have been NC since for about 7 months. Ive been cheering up and realising that life without her is fine and things are looking up. Then WHAM I have a dream out of no where and she is in it, its been happening atleast once a week for the last month. But my dreams aren't like yours, she is usually there for a few seconds, sometimes we dont even talk, sometimes we dont even make eye contact, other times the few times we do talk I'm kind've cold towards her and keep the conversations as short as possible, sometimes I'm even looking down on her. I'm not sure if its because I'm still bitter and holding grudge against her, or if its my subconscious getting mad at me for still thinking about her and realizing that she wasnt THAT great after all and I just wanted to believe that because I only remembered the good times. With time we won't even remember their last names.
CarrieT Posted March 22, 2014 Posted March 22, 2014 I came to LS to get advice on how to end a toxic relationship with an alcoholic. THREE YEARS later, I he still pops up in my dreams. Through mutual friends, I learn that those occasions where I dream about him usually coincide with days he is in rehab and going through the DTs. I've chalked it up to his psyche sort of being out in the nether-world, reaching out for help. But I understand how disconcerting it is to have those dreams...
TheKook Posted March 22, 2014 Posted March 22, 2014 I recently had a dream about my ex. We were having a great time together, and after I woke up I felt really strange. It didn't bother me or make me sad, but it certainly gets me thinking what if. Don't think too much about the dreams. Seems people just tend to randomly cross past emotional events, happens to everyone at some point.
anemptycup Posted March 22, 2014 Posted March 22, 2014 almost 7 months ago... I can't believe it has been so long already have you been in NC? what was your 3rd and 4th months like for you?
Author Chatmonkey Posted March 22, 2014 Author Posted March 22, 2014 Thanks all hmmm hard to say how long we been NC for as there was always the occasional text once a month or so... But at the moment its been probably about 2 months. It is definitely helping being in a whole new country haha when i moved back to Sydney (where she lives) I regressed a lot because we lived so close to each other. I guess i'm stuck with the dreams for now.. I really need to hit the bars and clubs.. clear the head!
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