What is the best course of action to get a second chance in my situation?

[Murtz]

Long story short, we were together for 5 months before I moved away three hours for school. I wasn't going to change that commitment I made for someone I only have been dating for short period of time. So it was long distance, saw each other every three weeks and breaks.

 

She decided to come to go to the same school as me. I wanted space, didn't tell her though because she changing majors and had to go to a different school anyways, 3 hours away. By the the time I realized I didn't want the space or distance, I pushed her away too much and she left me a couple weeks later.

 

Near the end of the relationship she thought she love me more than I loved her, so the whole winter break after the break up, I spent a month doing grand gestures (that she actually found cute rather than creepy). Eventually we decided to go no contact for a bit.

 

 

 

During spring break I came home and I asked if she wanted to go on a couple dates, we did. They were great, they included a few grand gestures as well, I was very supportive of some big life decisions she made. I told her at the end of the break, that I could never be just her friend, but I could be a date and that it didn't necessarily have to be exclusive. I told her that if we are ever to reconcile I would want to do it right rather than fast.

 

So since I am back at school it is long distance, but that will only be for 1 and a half more months. We have been texting and calling on the phone, but I also know that she is dating other people. She use to love me so much and I am just trying to show her that I have changed my behavior and can be a better boyfriend.

[ariawuu]

The answer will always be no contact or limited contact if you cant avoid no contact.

[d0nnivain]

Your connection wasn't that long. Your current stations in life indicate that dating but not exclusively is the better option. The distance almost mandates a non-exclusive relationship.

 

Take what you can get at this point. Date when you are in the same place. Keep in touch via technology but don't push for something that is too hard, too stressful & too difficult to maintain. Life seems to be taking you down different paths.

[Murtz]

The long distance really bothered her and she said she was just unhappy when I was away. I don't think I clarified enough that the long distance will only be around for 1.5 months and then we will be in the same location forever as far as I know.

[flight E]

U shld cool down on the grand gestures, u have apologized and shown her you wish things are better you shouldn't do anything more or you risk becoming a weakling which girls naturally hate.

 

Treat her nice but let her come to you. Don't train her to feel if she wants her way the only way to get it is to reject you. Also, you had a better chance of getting her back if you had simply apologized for treating her less than she would have wanted and gone no contact. Afterall no matter the justification she was the one that chose to breakup