hokugirl Posted March 22, 2014 Posted March 22, 2014 Hi! I know this is really long but I need your opinion. pleaseee.. There´s this guy whom I knew since high school. I always knew he likes me but I can´t and I´m not ready to get in a relationship yet. During college sophomore days, he asked if he can court me and so I said yes. I didn´t tell him but I planned to say yes to him as a girlfriend after I graduate from college. Like other guys, he said he´s going to wait no matter how long. But, of course I know that´s hard for him. Days passed, he´s getting a bit cold to me but I always try to make him feel reassured but not to the point to saying I love him.Unfortunately, he finally decided to stop courting me but said he still wanted to be friends still. I heard from our common friend that he cried because he felt like I don´t appreciate what he does. We´re still communicating from time to time but not as often as before. Then I graduated, he went to the US and is now serving in the navy. One day, we just communicated consistently like facebook, skype, etc. And so I decided to ask him what´s the real deal cause I´m feeling something different. Of course, I never lost my love for him and hoped that he feels the same. He then said he still likes me but that ended there. He didn´t asked if he can court me again. I told myself there´s no need to rush and just let him do the move. He got a chance to come home in our country and asked me where I was that day. I think he thought I´m in the province (same as his) and maybe we could meet personally. Unfortunately, I´m in the city so I just agree to him when he said I could come to a group lunch date with our highschool friends. I had to go to work after the lunch date so I said goodbye to him without having to have an ¨alone time¨with him. I felt dissapointed with my schedule and with him as well. Now, I feel like he doesn´t really give importance to me anymore. I think I feel the same way as him before when he got tired of having an unknown relationship status with me. Should I tell him how I feel? or should I just let him do the move..or feel the regret of losing me if ever I find somebody else?
Gaeta Posted March 22, 2014 Posted March 22, 2014 I think that yes, you should tell him how you feel and see how he responds. If he doesn't feel for you the way he used to then you need to move on and find a new love.
CheeseTofu Posted March 24, 2014 Posted March 24, 2014 I've experienced that as well! I guess, we shouldn't make a guy wait for us too long, as they're still humans and they have feelings too. As for your case, he felt discouraged and lost hope. As for now, I would recommend that you let him know that you still like him, and explain what you were doing (testing him, etc.) previously. If he is unable to return your feelings, move on, as there isn't any other choice. It's hard to move on and forget, but let time heal you. Good luck! - Jay
Author hokugirl Posted March 25, 2014 Author Posted March 25, 2014 Thanks guys! A little more help please.. I really want to tell him how I feel. And that if he doesn´t make it clear to me then I´ll have to go. But, I don´t know know how to say it to him without looking too dramatic or needy for a relationship. How do I say it to him?
slizl Posted March 25, 2014 Posted March 25, 2014 There is only so long a man can wait. This includes playing hard to get (which I know you aren't).
soccerrprp Posted March 25, 2014 Posted March 25, 2014 Thanks guys! A little more help please.. I really want to tell him how I feel. And that if he doesn´t make it clear to me then I´ll have to go. But, I don´t know know how to say it to him without looking too dramatic or needy for a relationship. How do I say it to him? Tell him what you said in bold. That does not sound needy for a relationship, but it is dramatic enough that he will know you are serious.
Author hokugirl Posted March 26, 2014 Author Posted March 26, 2014 There is only so long a man can wait. This includes playing hard to get (which I know you aren't). what do you mean by this?
Author hokugirl Posted March 26, 2014 Author Posted March 26, 2014 Tell him what you said in bold. That does not sound needy for a relationship, but it is dramatic enough that he will know you are serious. Thank you sooo much! Now, it´s all up to me. Wish me luck!
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