SpiralOut Posted March 22, 2014 Posted March 22, 2014 I only went on two dates with this guy, and the last date was super awkward. I didn't want to see him again but he kept texting me as if things were normal. I finally just told him that I'd been thinking a lot and I didn't think we were a good match for each other. No response. That was 5 days ago. I don't think he plans to say anything at all. I find it weird that he didn't even respond to at least acknowledge that he got my message. But he must have received it, otherwise he would have called me by now to complain to me about his job some more. Did I make a mistake? Should I have told him over the phone?
sooshi Posted March 22, 2014 Posted March 22, 2014 (edited) I think it's okay! It was only two dates (and probably not with someone you were friends with beforehand), and he was texting you a lot afterwards, anyway. I think it was probably the best way to do it in this case. Edited March 22, 2014 by sooshi 1
iDrumKing Posted March 22, 2014 Posted March 22, 2014 I agree with sooshi. I think it's fine. I went on a first date with this girl I just met. After the night ended I never heard from her again. It was an ego blow more than an emotional one. 1
sooshi Posted March 22, 2014 Posted March 22, 2014 Yep, I agree with iDK. I think it did hurt him, but that it would've been more of an ego blow than an emotional one. He'll be okay if he isn't already. <3 2
Mr.Pine Posted March 22, 2014 Posted March 22, 2014 If you bumped uglies, you call. If no fluids were exchanged, a text is fine. 1
Allumere Posted March 22, 2014 Posted March 22, 2014 Personal opinion: Texting is NEVER the right way to deal with things like that. I know it is only 2 dates but its really a reflection of you taking the easy way out and I find it disrespectful. I'm not big on doing it by phone either BUT given you had only had a couple dates I would think it would be the polite approach. 1
KaliLove Posted March 22, 2014 Posted March 22, 2014 2 dates is nothing. I think it's fine. I also think it's fine that he didn't respond. Neither of you owes the other anything. I bet it didn't bother him nearly as much as you think it did..I'm sure he's fine. NEXT! 1
Author SpiralOut Posted March 22, 2014 Author Posted March 22, 2014 (edited) We didn't kiss or even hold hands. I was just confused by his lack of response. Most guys would say "okay, good luck" or something in response. Now I see that I shouldn't have been surprised. He stone-walled me a few times when I said stuff he didn't like. That was part of the reason I didn't want to see him again. In the future I will consider doing a phone call. I'm still a bit uneasy with texting things like this, even if it is considered acceptable. Thanks all!! Edited March 22, 2014 by SpiralOut
mtnbiker3000 Posted March 22, 2014 Posted March 22, 2014 I went on one date with a girl. No kiss, no nothing. Texted her the next day and said that I didn't think it was what either of us wanted (based on our conversations on the date). I was very polite, yet straight forward, and we only went out once. Well, she went off on me and thought it was terrible what I did. Think she might have had some self-esteem issues or something. Whatever...
robaday Posted March 22, 2014 Posted March 22, 2014 Ending through texts after two dates is fine and nothing happened between you two. Why do you care about his lack of response? you ended it
lollipopspot Posted March 22, 2014 Posted March 22, 2014 I probably wouldn't respond to you either in that situation. It's not that you did anything wrong, but if someone I've only seen a couple times dumps me, I don't think I'd really have anything more to say to them.
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