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I've been talking to this girl who loves reading. She mentioned one of her favourite books. I went and read it and next time I spoke to her about a week later, I dropped it into conversation, casually (thanked her for the suggestion).

 

She was impressed to say the least!

 

I didn't see her for another week, and next time I saw her she had brought me a couple of books for me to borrow about a particular subject we're both into.

 

She said let me know when she's done as she's going to read one of them again. I'm thinking of making a cheeky note (in pencil) in one of the books. Just a simple "hey :)"

 

Cheesy, sweet, irresponsible, not far enough, too far?

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Great idea, but don't write it in the book directly. Pop it on a Post-It.

 

If she loves her books, she's shown an enormous amount of trust by lending them to you. Post-It! And write something cute.

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"She said let me know when she's done" -> "when *I'm done". Can't seem to edit original post!

 

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Yeh, post-it might be better. I just figured pencil because it can be easily rubbed out. Wasn't going to write a note, more of a small notation to remind her of me while she's reading it.

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I'd go for a post it too and if this is a girl that you like definitely a note not just a hey

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Nice idea. It will work. She has tickets on you my friend. Good luck.

 

I've been talking to this girl who loves reading. She mentioned one of her favourite books. I went and read it and next time I spoke to her about a week later, I dropped it into conversation, casually (thanked her for the suggestion).

 

She was impressed to say the least!

 

I didn't see her for another week, and next time I saw her she had brought me a couple of books for me to borrow about a particular subject we're both into.

 

She said let me know when she's done as she's going to read one of them again. I'm thinking of making a cheeky note (in pencil) in one of the books. Just a simple "hey :)"

 

Cheesy, sweet, irresponsible, not far enough, too far?

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I agree, write it on some other piece of paper and then stick it in there, it would be very cute!

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I'd go for a post it too and if this is a girl that you like definitely a note not just a hey

 

Yeah, unless the book was a gift and the giver wrote in it, I'd go apoplectic if someone else wrote in the book!

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I can imagine.:love:

 

 

Yeah, unless the book was a gift and the giver wrote in it, I'd go apoplectic if someone else wrote in the book!
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Thanks! Post-it note it is.

 

Forgot to mention, we're both 26. Am I a little too old for this ****? I've known her for a while, and I don't think she's had any romantically inclined SOs.

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That's quite a bit of personal effort on your part reading these books to connect with her..sounds like you really like her.

 

My only concern about this is, what vibe are you getting from her? are you feeling friendly vibes? have you had any flirtatious moments?

 

Does she know you're interested in her like that? she might feel like this is a friends basis kind of thing or isn't necessarily romantically interested, might surprise her or catch her off guard if you make a move, but that's probably your worse case scenario, I think either way it'll make an impression on her.

 

Not trying to deter you or make you feel self-conscious, I'd just recommend establishing some kind of communication that feels a little bit above "We're just friends sharing a similar interest" but you can definitely also be subtle in your messages, just write something out of that book that you found inspiring or touching and stick it on a note, depending on what it is, it can be a subtle flirtation.

 

If you're more confident she's interested or shown some attraction towards you, then you can be a little more bold, or you can always just roll the dice and take a chance. Otherwise I wouldn't worry about being cheesy or sweet, as long as she's open to your romantic interest it should be fine as long as you don't overdo it.

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Thanks! Post-it note it is.

 

Forgot to mention, we're both 26. Am I a little too old for this ****? I've known her for a while, and I don't think she's had any romantically inclined SOs.

 

Hell no! I'm 31, if the guy I was interested in tucked a sweet note in a book I lent him, I'd be all :love::love:

 

It's a fantastic idea - like I said, we just had to tweak with a note instead of directly writing in the book. It's perfect. You have nothing to lose and it's as sweet as f***.

 

There's a guy I'm sweet on, and he I. We say it with YouTube clips. Just another form of what you're doing...go with it!

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That's quite a bit of personal effort on your part reading these books to connect with her..sounds like you really like her.

 

My only concern about this is, what vibe are you getting from her? are you feeling friendly vibes? have you had any flirtatious moments?

 

Does she know you're interested in her like that? she might feel like this is a friends basis kind of thing or isn't necessarily romantically interested, might surprise her or catch her off guard if you make a move, but that's probably your worse case scenario, I think either way it'll make an impression on her.

 

Not trying to deter you or make you feel self-conscious, I'd just recommend establishing some kind of communication that feels a little bit above "We're just friends sharing a similar interest" but you can definitely also be subtle in your messages, just write something out of that book that you found inspiring or touching and stick it on a note, depending on what it is, it can be a subtle flirtation.

 

If you're more confident she's interested or shown some attraction towards you, then you can be a little more bold, or you can always just roll the dice and take a chance. Otherwise I wouldn't worry about being cheesy or sweet, as long as she's open to your romantic interest it should be fine as long as you don't overdo it.

 

Don't worry, it's impossible to deter me. I didn't read the book just to connect with her (though that was a strong factor). It happened to be a well-reviewed book. I would have skipped it if it had bad ratings. Anyway, yes, she is a very friendly person.

 

I don't know, does it show interest that I read a book she suggested? I've also been noticeably nervous around her. She has a strange effect on me. Of course, people can be quite naive if they think you're just being friendly. But after that, I did step back... and that's when she came down with these books in hand. We both read on Kindles so she could have simply sent the books over electronically. I don't know. I kinda got the feeling she did this so we had another reason to get together. I've not been around for the last couple of years, so we are reconnecting at the minute.

 

This is certainly not a dating scenario, and I'm well aware that she might just see me as a friend. That's why I need to show that I am romantically interested in her. If she's not into that, fine. We can still be great friends. I'll find somebody else. I'm not desperate for a relationship. Because of that, I'm willing to play this very slowly. She's worth the time, whether anything happens or not.

 

Thanks for the input.

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Thanks! Post-it note it is.

 

Forgot to mention, we're both 26. Am I a little too old for this ****? I've known her for a while, and I don't think she's had any romantically inclined SOs.

 

I'm close to your age and I'd find it sweet. :) Just be sure to keep it light and friendly.

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I'm close to your age and I'd find it sweet. :) Just be sure to keep it light and friendly.

 

That's it. I think the very act of putting a note in there is the romantic part. No need to get mushy with the actual note.

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That's it. I think the very act of putting a note in there is the romantic part. No need to get mushy with the actual note.

 

Sounds good. Nothing to lose at any rate.

 

Let us know how it goes, good luck! :)

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