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Ok, I met this guy on New Years Eve, and we had a great time. What started out as the 5th wheels with our friends, ended up meeting and spent the rest of the night together, making everyone envious of our new found instant attraction. For the last month we have been communicating via e-mail or text messaging, he has a strong aversion to talking on the phone, and once I got past it, I just figured it was one of his "things", thats ok, now I have room to have a few "things" of my own.

 

Well, we have been planning this weekend for a month, we are on the same schedule as far as kids go, but he lives 2 hrs away, so it ias a LDR with a few added obstacles, ok, I can deal. He is nice and smart, and funny. Well, we were supposed to hook up this weekend, Friday night, then Sat. he plays golf, then Saturday night we go to a party. We have been talking about it for weeks, and I reserved a hotel for Friday night and everything. But...today he tells me that he may have to leave Saturday right after his golf game because he forgot that he promised the ex he would watch the kid (on her weekend) so she could do a gig (country music singer) and tells me very non-chalantly. Well, I have planned for a whole weekend, based on his idea, now, what? One night stand, do me and dump me? I'm so confused, I don't know if I even want to see him Friday. What do you guys think?

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Hmmm, this is a tough one since he has a kid it might be a legitimate excuse. You could call him out on it by asking if the three of you could do something Saturday night since you drove all the way down there.

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If he was all about it, he would have made the time for it...Sorry if this sounds harsh but I try to deal more with bottom lines...And the phone thing? Eerie to me and I hate talking on the phone to my girl...

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Originally posted by Stylin22

If he was all about it, he would have made the time for it...Sorry if this sounds harsh but I try to deal more with bottom lines...And the phone thing? Eerie to me and I hate talking on the phone to my girl...

 

stylin, you hit it right on the head. he did go home saturday, but he waited until saturday morning to tell me. we had a great time, and yes, stupid me, i did sleep with him. now his e-mails went from 15 a day to 3. he said he wanted to see me again, but then added "i don't know when, my schedule is really hectic" i also found out that he is very likely still stuck on his ex-wife. he talks to her and agrees to take the kid whenever she has plans, regardless of what he has going on. but he spent the evening telling me what a "nice guy" he was, and how women don't want "nice", but he really is no better than any other. he got what he wanted, and so did i, fine, but don't tell me what a nice guy you are, then do me, then wait until the next morning to say "oh, i don't know when i will have time for you"

i'll take an honest bad boy over a phony nice guy anytime. nice guy, what a joke. there are no nice guys.

 

ok, so much for that. time to move on.

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There are nice guys out there, I know how hard it is to believe that but there are so try not to lose faith in us. Just remember the bottom line: if they really want it, they will make time for it. I have learned that life is all about timing. He got what he was looking for at that time it sounds like....learning experience for you and just another lesson that will bring you closer to the real thing....

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