Bantosm Posted March 21, 2014 Posted March 21, 2014 For most people, being optimistic usually leads to better results in everything. However for me, I'm finding that lately if I try and convince myself that something is impossible I tend to get markedly better results. For instance, yesterday I finally made a move to flirt with my insurance woman. Before, I did I got in my head that there is no way this girl wants anything to do with you. We started talking and let that thought keep going through my mind. We talked for few minutes and had her laughing on some stupid joke I said. I said to her that we should kick it at some nearby coffee shop sometime. Surprising, she handed me her business card and said to call her sometime. I'm not sure if it's know because I'm in better shape and look better or if negative thinking actually helps me. On the other side of the matter, what kills my chances if I have any sort of fantasy. Suppose I'm interested in someone and I've been flirting and on the verge of asking them out. If start thinking about sex or even something as tame as holding hands, its seems like my odds of getting anything going go down drastically. I'm really trying to figure it out. I wondered if anyone has found that they had similar results?
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