hilly534 Posted March 21, 2014 Posted March 21, 2014 SOOO long story short but this guy I've been off and on with for a year .. we hung out last night we never really talked about our feeling towards each other but we talk and hang out a lot and I think were both shy about it but after a year its time to talk about what the hell is going on.. (were 23 btw) after when he was driving back to me car i asked him like why he started talking to me again after he wanted to end things a while back.. and he's like oh were chill together like we never fight.. um i was so pissed like after a year of seeing each other thats all he can say about me so I was like ok well is this all were ever gonna be (pretty much ****buddies) and he's like ..well we've only hung out twice since i got back from vacation.. (he was on vacation for a month ) but still like its not like this was our second date we've been seeing each other for over a year.. anyway I'm sick of being invested emotionally in something when he clearly doesn't see a future with me and is stinging me along.. so should i ever bother scything anything else or just ignore him from now on..
Michelle ma Belle Posted March 21, 2014 Posted March 21, 2014 From my perspective, it looks like you're the only one that thinks the two of you are in some kind of "relationship" that's supposed to be going somewhere. This is a clear case of a guy of getting to have his cake and eating it too. He gets to hang out with you when it's convenient for him AND get his happy ending WITHOUT having to officially court you and/or commit to you. A scenario, by the way, you perpetuated if only because you didn't bother to communicate your feelings before jumping into bed together. Sex doesn't automatically guarantee a relationship or a future with someone despite what some women think. I'm glad to hear that you're sick of emotionally investing in a guy who clearly has no intentions of committing to you any time soon. Before you decide what to do, I would get clear about what it is YOU want in your life and even what you from him, if anything. Then, the mature thing to do is to tell him how you feel and what you want. If FWB isn't part of that vision, then let him know it. And for heaven's sake STOP giving him your golden ticket already and move on. Good luck!
Author hilly534 Posted March 21, 2014 Author Posted March 21, 2014 thanks! I know i should end things but its super hard cause i still have really strong feelings for him and a lot of time invested.. but your right thanks for the advice!
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