ldrgirl000 Posted March 21, 2014 Posted March 21, 2014 We broke up 6 months ago. We had no contact since until one day, I messaged him to see how he was. He replied very quickly, he continued to message me. It never crossed my mind he would want to meet. After the breakup, he just completely shut down, like I never existed. But by the third day, he said he was at the coffee next to my office. He seems to want to meet, he hesitated, then he finally asked to see me. He bought me flowers (mb just because it was a national women's day). But the whole time he was silence, he just looked out of the window and avoid my eyes. He almost touched my face but he reached his coffee. He was so quiet, so I slightly pulled his arms, and he was like 'hey what are you doing?'. At the end, it was like I was talking all by myself. After that meetup, he doesn't want to see me anymore and completely ignores me. I sent him 'please say something', he would reply 'I'll talk to you when you calm down'. I am calm, I just don't understand his silence. I don't know whether it is normal or not but he is always silent. he never ever says how he feels, what he thinks. I said I was sorry for the wrong that I've done. And I was hoping he would say the same, but he never replied. Like he hated me that much. I don't intend to go back to him. I just want to understand what's with all the silence. If we are all good, why he continued to ignore my existence?
a708 Posted March 21, 2014 Posted March 21, 2014 Sounds like it reopened the wound by seeing you to be honest. He sounds like feelings came back and that made him go back into shut down mode. I think you should be honest with him. Let him know how you thought it went.. tell him what your feelings were. Then let him respond to that in his own time. You've then done all you need to do. The most annoying thing about break ups in my opinion is that people hide their thoughts/emotions to protect themselves. I'm not saying you have. But people just need to be honest. Break ups would be so much easier if people were 100% (and i mean 100%) honest.
a708 Posted March 21, 2014 Posted March 21, 2014 Also.. try not to feel annoyed by his silence. It obviously had a bad effect on him. After all we're all only human. I understand that it is kinda rude that he met and went a bit weird. Considering it was him who wanted to meet. Its just the way it happened. Can't change that now
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