butiloveyou Posted March 21, 2014 Posted March 21, 2014 (edited) When I was 17 I met this guy I thought was awesome. Within four months we had gotten pregnant. We had 3 kids during our six years together. We loved each other very much but after some infidelity on his part and revenge on my part, we had no trust. He was very mean, and vulgar. I overly defend myself. meaning, if you call me. A name i will try my damnedest to tear your heart out. Together we were toxic, but it hurts so bad to live without him. I know that short description doesn't make it sound this way, but we had some pretty great times too. I hold a special place for him in my heart and always will. He will always be my family. We broke up about four or five months ago, if you told me three weeks ago i would be happy about it I would laugh in your face, but I recently met someone. Two weeks ago I started seeing the greatest guy. I've known him my whole life and we started talking again on Facebook so I guess you can't call it meeting someone, but i just got home after one fantastic night with my new beau. I was thinking about how happy I was and how good I felt. Then I thought, I almost forgot what it was like to have a man make me feel like I'm just the best thing since sliced bread..... which immediately made me think of my ex. Now the guilt has rolled in. I'm so happy where I am and hope my new relationship lasts for a long time, but its going to hurt my ex so bad. I lie to my ex about my new relationship, because I can't bear to see his tears. I'm literally crying because I'm going to break my exs heart. I just want to hug him and confess, but I can't hurt him. I've hinted and I think he knows but I cannot just say it to him. He goes out of his way to hurt me, but i can't stomach the thought of breaking his heart? What do I do about this? Is it wrong I'm happy so soon? Edited March 21, 2014 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Paragraphs
stillafool Posted March 21, 2014 Posted March 21, 2014 Tell him you are in a new relationship. He will hurt, heal and move on to someone new. Your not telling him the truth is prolonging his pain. Tell him the truth and set him free. 2
Strength in Healing Posted March 21, 2014 Posted March 21, 2014 It's been months since the breakup, it isn't so soon. But your happiness is likely due to dopamine and oxytocin being released from the excitement. Count on that fading and reality coming back. It's your only chance in my honest opinion
KaliLove Posted March 21, 2014 Posted March 21, 2014 You found a guy who is not mean or vulgar, and who is willing to be with you with 3 kids? DO NOT LET HIM GO! Jussayin'... You know you and your ex didn't work. He knows you didn't work. Yes it will hurt him but he'll be ok in the end, and he will eventually meet someone new too. 1
Author butiloveyou Posted March 22, 2014 Author Posted March 22, 2014 So happy to say, I told him. He is upset, but i feel a lot better. Now we can both move forward. . 1
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