Are online forums healthy for someone in a breakup?

[bluegreen]

That's a good point too I think a lot of people come to the site when they can no longer burden a friend it usually takes much longer to get over a love, and after the few month mark pretty sure friends dont wanna hear it anymore!

 

 

 

Agree with this totally

[Simon Phoenix]

My recovery is long done, I come on here to help, to try to use my experiences to help, albeit in an extremely blunt manner a lot of the time. This site was a huge help when I was struggling and I'd like to "pay it forward", so to speak. It's also kind of addictive and entertaining, as you definitely get caught up in certain storylines. I usually participate on sports message boards, so this is a nice change of pace for the other side of my brain.

[Ordinaryday]

they can be great at giving you advice on how to act, because most dumpees experience the same thing.

 

for example, after I was dumped I thought about sending my ex a "farewell letter" basically outlining why I was disatisfied and questioning things and attempting to get "closure". I looked on this board and found it is a very common question post breakup, everyone advises you NOT to so it because - it makes you look pathetic, gives the ex an egoboost, and gives them closure but rarely you because even if they do respond, ANYTHING they say will not give you answers but only lead to more questions.

 

I learned that NO you dont send anything, and if they send you anything you ignore it unless it outright says "i made a mistake, want you back"

 

I have also had lots of other good advice, it can be great.

[bluegreen]

Exactly and we see am sorry I was moron lets get back posts well Never