hermitinator Posted March 21, 2014 Posted March 21, 2014 My head knows that I made the right decision and that I did him an actual favor, but my heart is very emotional. Mind over heart. I have posted on this website multiple times on my relationship and have a clear idea that this relationship was a destructive one. I am not looking for advice as to why he is not good for me; I have written all the cons as a reminder. I am looking for advice on the healing process. I have read the No Contact policy and such, but am looking for an actual process. Things I should do as to not focus on what I have lost and what I can gain from this break-up. I am looking for ways as to move forward.
Trovador Posted March 21, 2014 Posted March 21, 2014 First time I read that No Contact is not an actual process... Must have dreamed that I didn't contact my ex ever, that I forgot her completely and that I emerged from that episode of my life victorious and healthy... ???
Soulstep Posted March 21, 2014 Posted March 21, 2014 First time I read that No Contact is not an actual process... Must have dreamed that I didn't contact my ex ever, that I forgot her completely and that I emerged from that episode of my life victorious and healthy... ??? Your sarcasm is complete jack-assery. Obviously the OP realizes that NC is part of the process, but is not the entire thing. To OP: Wish I could help, but my breakup just happened a few days ago. I feel some of your pain (though I was the dumpee). All the best in your recovery.
Author hermitinator Posted March 21, 2014 Author Posted March 21, 2014 Your sarcasm is complete jack-assery. Obviously the OP realizes that NC is part of the process, but is not the entire thing. To OP: Wish I could help, but my breakup just happened a few days ago. I feel some of your pain (though I was the dumpee). All the best in your recovery. Thank you. I understand that the NC is part of the process, but I know that it isn't the whole process. Thanks anyway.
Strength in Healing Posted March 21, 2014 Posted March 21, 2014 (edited) First, delete all pics and throw away all items that remind you of him that you possibly can. Hell, I even tossed my bed. Next, don't snoop on facebook or any social media site under ANY circumstance. Next, completely cut him off and don't text him or contact him in any way. Not for birthdays, not if you find out his dad got hit by a bus. Then focus on you. Go to the gym. If that's you in your profile picture, go on a date with me Sounds about right Edited March 21, 2014 by Strength in Healing 1
Author hermitinator Posted March 21, 2014 Author Posted March 21, 2014 First, delete all pics and throw away all items that remind you of him that you possibly can. Hell, I even tossed my bed. Next, don't snoop on facebook or any social media site under ANY circumstance. Next, completely cut him off and don't text him or contact him in any way. Not for birthdays, not if you find out his dad got hit by a bus. Then focus on you. Go to the gym. If that's you in your profile picture, go on a date with me Sounds about right Not me in the profile picture. I have deleted his home and cellular phone number from my contacts. I hesitated, but I did delete him from facebook as well as all of his friends.
David87 Posted March 21, 2014 Posted March 21, 2014 First, delete all pics and throw away all items that remind you of him that you possibly can. Hell, I even tossed my bed. Next, don't snoop on facebook or any social media site under ANY circumstance. Next, completely cut him off and don't text him or contact him in any way. Not for birthdays, not if you find out his dad got hit by a bus. Then focus on you. Go to the gym. If that's you in your profile picture, go on a date with me Sounds about right Very good advice. I like the last part because I thought that I was the only one hitting on girls on LS lol
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