tornado Posted March 21, 2014 Posted March 21, 2014 (edited) Thank you loveshack forum, I've been reading you for almost a week and it's very interesting. I feel a bit better and understand better what happened to me. It seems that those MMs are all the same! I was a bit lost, I thought at first he was a sort of narcissistic psychopath and went to read psychopathfree forum. I have recognised myself in many of the stories I've read on here. Those selfish, coward little bastards deserve a karma return. I have gone NC with "him" for almost 2 weeks now. He deserves that I visit his house one day, telling his wife or whoever is there at that moment that I was invited for lunch or whatever, and do the surprised girl to discover that he is married. I would love to see his face at that precise moment. I bet he will shake and won't be able to say a single word in front of his wife! Or he deserves that I fix him a meeting in a hotel room. This disgusting horny pig will probably say yes, then I could tie him naked on a chair and bring all his clothes with me, take some pictures, and leave him alone in the room until the cleaning lady finds him. Anyway, he needs to be humiliated a bit. Edited March 21, 2014 by tornado
whichwayisup Posted March 21, 2014 Posted March 21, 2014 Actually the best revenge is to stay in NC and use that NC to heal and move on. You knew going in he was married so you can't put all the blame on him.. Unless he pretended he wasn't married and made it seem like he was single. The tying him plan could land you in jail, so don't do that. 1
Author tornado Posted March 21, 2014 Author Posted March 21, 2014 Actually the best revenge is to stay in NC and use that NC to heal and move on. You knew going in he was married so you can't put all the blame on him.. Unless he pretended he wasn't married and made it seem like he was single. The tying him plan could land you in jail, so don't do that. Oh, I didn't know for the jail. He doesn't wear his wedding ring... but I knew quite quickly he was married. He went after me for months, talking to me everyday on skype, he "worked" me a lot. I kept telling him I was asexual etc. It seems I was a challenge for him. He made me speak a lot, listened too. Anyway, if there is another man after him, I'll keep much more mysterious. He became my confident first. He even promised he would help me because I had big problems with my father. I just realise now it was all fake. He only had one goal. I really thought he was someone sincere. Or maybe he is, just the second he speaks.
MuddyFootprints Posted March 21, 2014 Posted March 21, 2014 I am glad you found us here. I recommend further reading and personal exploration and development. Take care of you. 2
Author tornado Posted March 21, 2014 Author Posted March 21, 2014 Thank you, MuddyFootprints. A bit angry that I lost 3 years with this useless dwarf, but I'm moving on. I am amazed at how I could be in love with that jester.
eye of the storm Posted March 21, 2014 Posted March 21, 2014 Be careful begging for karma. You knew you were sleeping with a MM. While I may not be thrilled with my ExAP. I can say my feelings and pride were hurt. I cannot say he did me wrong. I was completely involved with the entire situation. I allowed myself to fall in love with someone I knew was capable of doing what he ended up doing. For example, you rob a bank with someone, you cant get too upset when they steal your jewelry. You knew you were with a thief. I had many revenge fantasies after I found out about my ExH's As. And I carried out a few of them. Showing up at the restaurant where they were, calling and telling them they were with a MM, blocking their #s on his cell phone... And then one day I decided to move on with my life, find some peace, and look myself in the mirror again. I didn't like who I was becoming by hating so much. Notice the use of "I". His thoughts, his needs, his actions really have nothing to do with this. You need to make a decision, post it on the wall (love stickies around the mirror in the bathroom) and then do it. If you need to find out why you got involved with a MM, do it. If you need to figure out how to let go, do it. Take positive action. Move towards something. It is too easy (been there done that and have the empty wine bottles to prove it) to sit around and blame the one that did you wrong. But it never helps you move on and it never helps you learn from your mistakes. It only keeps you locked in and attached to someone who is not healthy for you. Take care. I hope you find peace and happiness. 1
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