bluegreen Posted March 20, 2014 Posted March 20, 2014 If two people were friends and third person had always tagged along it was long long time friendship for all 3 how far should one of them go to try to recover friendship that is on respiratory machines now. One friend = Me had gotten big personal problem that caused them to simply lay down low and drift away from the friendship and most people around them they could not take it anymore. Friend of a friend= My friend I drifted away from of course might have gotten offended really hurt and all that its understandable its not that person did not care anymore = Me problem was bigger then her ability to cope with that and world to. 3 tag along friend called my friend blabbed whole thing out "huge" scene was created cause tag along friend did it for her own sake and cause she needed my friend financial help. Friend that had drifted away = Me explained herself until she was blue in face best she could apologized 100 times except that it seems friendship they had with number 2 friend became almost non existent. One way calls broken promises and Some F B likes and pokes really after years and years of strong friendship ? Am dying to be sarcastic and send some equally sarcastic note to her except I can't until I resolve something I owed her and of course Intend to give back as soon as I could. So should I ignore what's happening not call invite her or try to be "always" the one in touch cause I tried that to did not work either : Yet she claims we are all good :rolleyes::rolleyes: Or say at least if we are not friends anymore don't insult what once was great friendship by freaking poking me om F B on same phone you did not called me in weeks yet somehow are always on .
CarrieT Posted March 21, 2014 Posted March 21, 2014 What I am reading above are nine want-to-be sentences, begging for punctuation to clarify what is being transcribed, but other than that, I can barely understand what the OP is trying to say and/or ask. What does all this have to do with a respirator anyway? So confused....
preraph Posted March 21, 2014 Posted March 21, 2014 ^ I usually think it's unfair to criticize grammar, etc. in online posts, but if you are asking for help, you need to speak in plain language. I read through what you wrote twice and still have no clue what you are talking about except that you have a big problem. I'm guessing communication may be your problem with your friends as well, as you are very oblique.
chelsea2011 Posted March 23, 2014 Posted March 23, 2014 (edited) It sounds like a simple break down in communication. Everyone just needs to sit down and talk instead of assuming someone said something out of malice or selfish reasons. Never make assumptions unless you get all sides of the story and then figure it out based on what you truly know about the people involved. I've seen situations where a person has pure intentions and others made snap judgements without knowing the whole story. Look at track records and ask the person directly and get their perspective. Maybe they said something based on "group" opinion and they were merely trying to advocate frm that perspective. And it's quite possible they were not aware that it was a sensitive issue for the person who was in trouble. If they were not aware of that how can you fault them? In short, don't judge until everyone can explain where they are coming from and then use your intelligence to mediate from there. I've been there. I've been the newcomer to a "culture" and "stepped in it" without knowing better. I'm an honest person when it comes to business and if somone had taken the time to coach me on something they felt I did wrong they would have seen it was a honest mistake and not done out of malice or selfish reasons. However, they did not and made snap judgements instead and now there is tension as a result. Now if a person intentionally makes the mistake again AFTER being coached then you have reason to not trust them. But, if you don't take the time to find out their side then shame on you for judging. That's on you. Edited March 23, 2014 by chelsea2011
chelsea2011 Posted March 23, 2014 Posted March 23, 2014 But you know what? People are going to think what they want to think regardless of explanatons because they don't really care to be honest. It's easier to make a judement instead of putting the energy in to coach a person. And I mean in person and not through some silly game or indirect way where they are left guessing.
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