irc333 Posted March 20, 2014 Posted March 20, 2014 Just saw this online dating profile. Shows her at age 49, Asian woman, looks kind of young for 49. Basically said IN her profile, admittedly, that 49 is not her real age...and that just she chooses not to disclose it. If she is willing to admit to this, would you make an exception?
Phoe Posted March 20, 2014 Posted March 20, 2014 If she's willing to be honest about it once you actually know her, then I'd say her not wanting to disclose that info on a public forum would be OK. If, after getting to know her, she is STILL hesitant, I'd be confused why. Not that her age MATTERS, persay, but I'd be baffled at her desire to withhold information. My ex refused to tell me his age and refused to tell me his birthday. NOBODY in our friend group knew his age. He wouldn't let me see his ID, wouldn't tell me what year he graduated high school. I didn't care what his age was, but was very bothered by the fact that he was so very intent on keeping that info hidden.
Author irc333 Posted March 20, 2014 Author Posted March 20, 2014 If she's willing to be honest about it once you actually know her, then I'd say her not wanting to disclose that info on a public forum would be OK. If, after getting to know her, she is STILL hesitant, I'd be confused why. Not that her age MATTERS, persay, but I'd be baffled at her desire to withhold information. My ex refused to tell me his age and refused to tell me his birthday. NOBODY in our friend group knew his age. He wouldn't let me see his ID, wouldn't tell me what year he graduated high school. I didn't care what his age was, but was very bothered by the fact that he was so very intent on keeping that info hidden. What's shocking is the fact he's a man!
Disillusioned Posted March 21, 2014 Posted March 21, 2014 Just saw this online dating profile. Shows her at age 49, Asian woman, looks kind of young for 49. And..? A lot of people look younger nowadays because fewer of them are smoking. Besides, women being hung up on telling people their real age is soooo 1970s!
bene Posted March 21, 2014 Posted March 21, 2014 It makes you wonder what else could they be lying about... Lying about your age shows that you are not comfortable with your age and it is not an attractive trait not to be content with who you are. I get it, age is just a number etc but I would rather enjoy the benefits of looking young for my age than lying about it. "Lying" by omission is another story, people don't need to lay all their personal details on the table in their OLD profile if they don't feel like sharing them with strangers. 3
cimplysonfused Posted March 26, 2014 Posted March 26, 2014 Lying is never okay, it creates unnecessary issues for all; none of which are deserved.
spiderowl Posted March 29, 2014 Posted March 29, 2014 No, I find it pathetic when people lie about their age. They are lying and trying to gain some kind of unfair advantage over those who are honest. How can anyone like that or admire it?
Targetlock Posted March 30, 2014 Posted March 30, 2014 No i don't think it is right lying about your age like that, choosing to not reveal your age is another matter.
d0nnivain Posted March 30, 2014 Posted March 30, 2014 Just saw this online dating profile. Shows her at age 49, Asian woman, looks kind of young for 49. Basically said IN her profile, admittedly, that 49 is not her real age...and that just she chooses not to disclose it. If she is willing to admit to this, would you make an exception? Yes. On line lets you pick a # but doesn't let you qualify it. She did that in her profile. She didn't "lie". She just dealt with the parameters given but wasn't comfortable picking a # that began with a 5. If she's otherwise young looking & you find her attractive, let her keep her "secret".
Thegreatestthing Posted April 1, 2014 Posted April 1, 2014 I look half my age so I suppose I could be whatever age I want to be but who wants to do this you will be having to check what you say all the time referring to things that happened in the 90s when you were supposed to be 1 years old or something.
Michelle ma Belle Posted April 1, 2014 Posted April 1, 2014 Honestly, I don't get why people have to lie at all particularly on an online dating site! I mean, the whole point of being on one of those sites is to MEET someone, isn't it? If you don't want to initially disclose something super personal for fear of stalkers or wackadoos trolling the internet (and there are plenty), that's one thing but to outright lie or exaggerate or deceive someone in anyway is just wrong on so many levels and says a lot about that person's character if you ask me.
Standard-Fare Posted April 1, 2014 Posted April 1, 2014 I've never understood lying about age. You can't hide from such a fundamental detail about yourself. And if you're lying in dating situations, the truth WILL eventually catch up with you and it's going to be weird and awkward...if not a total dealbreaker. I had a friend who refused to change her age from 29 to 30 on an online dating site. I asked her if she was just looking for sex ... because in that case, it could make sense if you're never going to have to deal with any consequences of the lie. But she said no, she was looking for a serious relationship. Why would you want to START a serious relationship with a big fat lie about yourself that you're going to have to put stressful effort into keeping up? Also, why would you want to "trick" someone who clearly states a preference for a younger age group? If they can't accept your real age, why bother at all?
Teraskas Posted April 1, 2014 Posted April 1, 2014 Personally, I don't really see the point to lie about one's age. I could say I'm 25 or something, despite the fact that I'm 22 atm. I know I could get away with a few years like that, but obviously claiming to be 30 is going to raise some eyebrows I'm sure. Not trying to hyjack this thread or anything, but I was wondering something else. Assuming the question of "Having sex" or "had sex" comes up, how does one explain you haven't been active in that field for a while (2 years for instance.) Should you just flat out lie, tell the truth or just evade the question altogether ? This is from the perspective of a guy btw. Seems to me that the times I've been honest about this, I've been shunned for it more than anything. It's as I can read on their face that they're thinking "Morals ? Ugh, BORING."
JFReyes Posted April 2, 2014 Posted April 2, 2014 I never believe an age until I see a valid driver's license. 1
GemmaUK Posted April 5, 2014 Posted April 5, 2014 I don't think so no. I got a mail from a 36 yo guy this week and I asked how old his photo was as I remember having seen it before. He didn't tell me how old the pic was but did say he wasn't 36 but was actually the same age as me (45). He looked 36 in the photo...and last time I saw it was on a different site well over 6 years ago. That was the end of that conversation... I probably wouldn't recognise the guy if I had decided to meet him.
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