joebrown Posted March 20, 2014 Posted March 20, 2014 when you are with your significant other and you are not on a date, how do you handle the cell phone? im just curious. yesterday i hung out with my girlfriend just to chill and i was texting my two buddies alot. we were discussing an upcoming day we were all getting together. i felt sort of bad but i don't know how she saw it do you think it was rude? we see each other a lot. 5-7 days a week, so it snot like its the only time i saw her in a two week period or something
Keenly Posted March 20, 2014 Posted March 20, 2014 I believe if you are on a date, its rude. But there comes a point where you spend a lot of time together, almost every day in your example, and you can't be expected to just always ignore your phone just because she is around. If you are just hanging out, its fair game. If you are out to dinner, leave it in your pocket.
soccerrprp Posted March 20, 2014 Posted March 20, 2014 It sounded like a conversation that would have been better dealt with phone talking. Anyway, when I am with my gf, I look and if important I give a brief response and let it go. Otherwise, I leave the phone someplace where it does not interfere with my time with my gf. If important, they'll call. Not text. If it's a call, I look, if important or from someone important, I call back, if not, I ignore. 1
Author joebrown Posted March 20, 2014 Author Posted March 20, 2014 It sounded like a conversation that would have been better dealt with phone talking. Anyway, when I am with my gf, I look and if important I give a brief response and let it go. Otherwise, I leave the phone someplace where it does not interfere with my time with my gf. If important, they'll call. Not text. If it's a call, I look, if important or from someone important, I call back, if not, I ignore. i wanst ignoring my girlfriend. we just drove around, went to the store and thats about it. i talked to her too. its not like it was constant
GemmaUK Posted March 20, 2014 Posted March 20, 2014 i felt sort of bad but i don't know how she saw it Say exactly what you said here, but ask her. 1
soccerrprp Posted March 20, 2014 Posted March 20, 2014 GemmaUK's post above seems to indicate that you felt otherwise. On the one hand you feel bad, but you tell me all the reasons to show that it should have been fine... how did your gf react?
Author joebrown Posted March 20, 2014 Author Posted March 20, 2014 GemmaUK's post above seems to indicate that you felt otherwise. On the one hand you feel bad, but you tell me all the reasons to show that it should have been fine... how did your gf react? honestly she didnt say anything, and i even told her what i was doing
soccerrprp Posted March 20, 2014 Posted March 20, 2014 honestly she didnt say anything, and i even told her what i was doing It doesn't sound like it's anything to worry about then. It's bothering you, so make the adjustments so that it doesn't bother you. I think, from what you've shared, she's okay with it. It also sounds like it's something isolated, right?
GemmaUK Posted March 20, 2014 Posted March 20, 2014 honestly she didnt say anything, and i even told her what i was doing Then no need to worry. It wouldn't bother me in the slightest! I would do the same as she did and say nothing, I'd have no reason to say anything about it.
d0nnivain Posted March 20, 2014 Posted March 20, 2014 If you get to see each other a lot & it's not a date cell phone is fine. If it's a rare event when you are together, cell should be limited. Heaven's if I couldn't talk on my cell just because my husband was nearby I'd never get anything done.
Phantom888 Posted March 20, 2014 Posted March 20, 2014 It's rude. You should be spending quality time together and turn off the damn phone. There is plenty of time to text or call your buddies. Geez. I thought this was common sense!
Keenly Posted March 21, 2014 Posted March 21, 2014 It's rude. You should be spending quality time together and turn off the damn phone. There is plenty of time to text or call your buddies. Geez. I thought this was common sense! They are together 5 days a week. Its unreasonable to ask some one to leave there phone down every moment you are together when you are constantly together.
xxmusical Posted March 21, 2014 Posted March 21, 2014 Usually if my bf and I are just hanging out, I don't mind him texting and stuff since he's quite a busy man. But we put our phones away if we're having dinner or going somewhere special (a date). If your gf didn't look annoyed, I wouldn't worry about it.
Seeking11 Posted March 21, 2014 Posted March 21, 2014 This is something that really irritates me. Texting every once in a while and such, and brief phone calls, I don't mind. But when it gets a bit excessive, like you are on the phone 5+ minutes, and I'm just sort of there, when we are spending time together, I get irritated by it and yes I do find it rude. Keenly is right that you can't expect someone to shut their phone completely, but at the same time, there should be certain limits to it.
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