Vero Posted March 20, 2014 Posted March 20, 2014 My first experience with a girl was the best feeling if felt in a very long time. I don't know, I got too clingy and she ended up leaving me. It was such a quick move by her that I was just left there is pieces and I felt like **** for about 3 months. It was really hard to continue my Track & Field, my high school passion, because her having left me was always on my mind and I couldn't focus. She left me and a couple weeks later she started talking to another guy and now they're an official couple. She did me wrong. Anyway, it's been 4 months since that happened and I've been able to slowly piece myself back together. I started putting my full focus on my Track & Field team and my grades and friends. That's a good thing, but I still feel empty inside. I don't want my ex back, but she opened an area in my heart that I had never had before. I've been able to ignore this feeling, but lately it's been hitting me hard. I've tried to get with other girls, but it's not working out for me too well. I don't know if I need to switch up my game or whatever. It seems like every girl i try to get with has this major obstacle I can't overcome (don't see her often, she's a higher grade, she doesn't seem interested etc., she likes someone else etc.). To sum a this up, why can't I fill this empty feeling my ex left me with? What am I not doing that's preventing me from getting another girl?
Heroeric Posted March 21, 2014 Posted March 21, 2014 With this being you first relationship, it's normal to a degree to be experiencing all this pain your feeling. Though considering the length of time, the best way I can say it is it sounds your kinda a loner (not trying to be mean) or possibly attachment conflicts going on mentally (for example, I have attachments anxiety, caused by an anxiety disorder mixed with negligence from mother figures) that could influence severe depression and/or obsessive behavior (which being hung up on someone for so long for no appearing reason so strongly, reflects) I'm not trying to be mean at all, I'm just giving it how I see it. Most others are gonna say your too young and should focus on studies, but being young it's best to get your mind opened. Of course don't automatically assume something is wrong with you, like I said it could simply be loneliness causing you to dwell on her. Best thing to do attempt to find new hobbies, books, and physical activities to try to get your mind off things. If you feel nothing is working, I would recommend you talk to a school psychologist, as long as you no harm to anyone what is said could stay between you two. 1
jphcbpa Posted March 21, 2014 Posted March 21, 2014 I got too clingy and she ended up leaving me.This is a great time in your life to explore this and really work on you. Building a new foundation for future relationships. You perhaps relied on her for too much of your happiness. Why? Does it have to do with your upbringing? Dig deeper 1
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