lost everything

[losteverything]

really am so low and lost and life is just so empty

 

wife of 10 years decided that she wants to be on her own,been unhappy for years with our marriage,she says dont love me anymore,nothing left,she says i took her for granted,in every way,she was right but didnt realize till i lost everything,i guess was just in that way of being comfy i guess,the signs were there all along,no affection from her,was like a house share than a relationship,this all happened in OCT last year,since then,she has blocked me from her life, she will not talk to me,even about our kids,she lets me see them when im not working ,but if want to see them more often,she says i always want more,and she gets angry,its like she has to control everything,its hard when my own kids are saying mum must hate you,not good that they also see how she is with me,and i cant even pick them up from home

 

 

over the 3 months she has made contact a couple of times,when she has wanted something,says will try be civil for the kids sake,and then as soon as its ok ...she ends all ways of contact not spoken to her now in 4 weeks, she wont see me,wont talk to me,its like we never happend

 

i have to speak to one of her family members to then speak to my wife to arrange anything .....thats how she wants it

have tried everything....and i mean everything to start again.....i want to save our marrige...even though right now its already dead,i would hope that after 13 years together,she still had some love left for me....but it dont look like it

i love her,she is my everything,i married her as i honestly believe she is my soulmate....i know what i did wrong in our relationship ( never cheated or any violence) and have told her in a very long letter how much i regret what happend to us .....and i would do anything to make it work but nothing i say makes any difference

feel so lost and dont know what to do anymore

[d0nnivain]

You have lots a lot but you haven't lost everything. You still have your kids.

 

 

Did you two ever go to marriage counseling? See if you can get her to go with you to take one last stab at saving your marriage.

[somecamel]

really am so low and lost and life is just so empty

 

wife of 10 years decided that she wants to be on her own,been unhappy for years with our marriage,she says dont love me anymore,nothing left,she says i took her for granted,in every way,she was right but didnt realize till i lost everything,i guess was just in that way of being comfy i guess,the signs were there all along,no affection from her,was like a house share than a relationship,this all happened in OCT last year,since then,she has blocked me from her life, she will not talk to me,even about our kids,she lets me see them when im not working ,but if want to see them more often,she says i always want more,and she gets angry,its like she has to control everything,its hard when my own kids are saying mum must hate you,not good that they also see how she is with me,and i cant even pick them up from home

 

 

over the 3 months she has made contact a couple of times,when she has wanted something,says will try be civil for the kids sake,and then as soon as its ok ...she ends all ways of contact not spoken to her now in 4 weeks, she wont see me,wont talk to me,its like we never happend

 

i have to speak to one of her family members to then speak to my wife to arrange anything .....thats how she wants it

have tried everything....and i mean everything to start again.....i want to save our marrige...even though right now its already dead,i would hope that after 13 years together,she still had some love left for me....but it dont look like it

i love her,she is my everything,i married her as i honestly believe she is my soulmate....i know what i did wrong in our relationship ( never cheated or any violence) and have told her in a very long letter how much i regret what happend to us .....and i would do anything to make it work but nothing i say makes any difference

feel so lost and dont know what to do anymore

 

I hate to be the bearer of bad news but you need to hear this:(

 

Are you sure there isn't someone else?

 

This is going to hurt real bad but if she is, it means you can start the healing process so much sooner than living in the state of denial you may be living in at the moment.

 

When a woman says they want to be on their own, it normally means there's someone else.

 

Stay with us here, we can help and guide you through this, you will be a better person after this.