Trevor rose Posted March 20, 2014 Posted March 20, 2014 (edited) So this story sucks but I need help. I was with the mother of my kids for 7 years. We have a 5 year old a 4 year old and a 1 year old. I found out she cheated on me. But she said sorry and told me all about it answered all my questions. I left for a few days and when I was gone I got a plane ticket to go to work. I came back for 5 days and we where talking having great sex and things were looking better. I left to go to work 5000 km away. That was my first mistake. When I got to work I should have left her alone but I didn't I pushed and pushed and pushed her into the other guys arms. I got home two weeks ago and for the first week I took my kids on a road trip. Now I am home and she is coming to see the kids but staying with him at night. I love her and my kids with all my heart ad want to show her that. I know it will take time but how do I show her how much she means to me Here's is what I came up with. Am I nuts I took the kids to my mothers yesterday and when she came after work I got her to sit down without fighting. I told her I am asking for nothing if she wants to be with him I will not try to stop her. I want nothing from this house it is all hers. I am going to go back west and work and leave her alone no texting only calling for the kids. I am going to send her money to get all the bills out of my name. I want to show her that I love her and want to e with her forever. So I will send her money and support her but I will buy my own house. Will this do anything or am I nuts. I am so scared of doing this but it will be better for my kids. Because right now we fight to much My kids are my life and she knows that. She already tells me I a great father ad she would never try to stop that. I am with them everyday and want them to have a family. I am so scared that my kids will not have memories of there mother and father together. So like I said she is the only woman I want to be with. And I have to find a way to fix this. I want us to be best friends and go from there at some point and build the love once had. I plan on writing her once a month so she knows I love her and besides that leaving her alone in the hopes she will miss me. Any advice is good so please feel free Edited March 20, 2014 by Trevor rose
somegoodman Posted March 21, 2014 Posted March 21, 2014 So this story sucks but I need help. I was with the mother of my kids for 7 years. We have a 5 year old a 4 year old and a 1 year old. I found out she cheated on me. But she said sorry and told me all about it answered all my questions. You shouldn't have been so forgiving. When she cheats you can't be the nice guy or she loses respect. Should have ended the relationship right there. I left for a few days and when I was gone I got a plane ticket to go to work. I came back for 5 days and we where talking having great sex and things were looking better. I left to go to work 5000 km away. That was my first mistake. No, your first mistake was trusting this woman enough to be committed to her. Your second mistake was overlooking her cheating. She "answered all your questions" with lies, no doubt in my mind, and you have no idea of the extent to which she has betrayed you in the past, present, and will do in the future. When I got to work I should have left her alone but I didn't I pushed and pushed and pushed her into the other guys arms. She would have been in his arms anyway. You blame yourself because you are being manipulated and played by a low quality woman. You're allowing this to happen most likely out of a scarcity mentality; in other words, you think this woman is the best you can get and the best you will ever have. I got home two weeks ago and for the first week I took my kids on a road trip. Now I am home and she is coming to see the kids but staying with him at night. I love her and my kids with all my heart ad want to show her that. You don't show a woman that has betrayed your trust time and time again that you "love" her. You tell her to go to hell and remove the bitch from your life. So like I said she is the only woman I want to be with. And I have to find a way to fix this. I want us to be best friends and go from there at some point and build the love once had. I plan on writing her once a month so she knows I love her and besides that leaving her alone in the hopes she will miss me. She sees you as pathetic and will use you and abuse you until there's nothing left in your dried-out carcass. You are a doormat and you have no confidence or respect for yourself. You are also co-dependent. The best thing you can do right now is get away from her and try to rebuild yourself. You need to shed your co-dependence and recognize that you have value as a man.
Author Trevor rose Posted March 21, 2014 Author Posted March 21, 2014 You are right I grew up without a family and I was scared to death for my kids to do the same. I have a great job stay in great shape and know I can get another woman. Thing is I am too soft. This is why I am going back to work to move forward. I don't plan on talking to her when I am gone at all. I left when she told me about it but it was fresh in my mind and I came back on emotion not using my head. I think she told me the truth just because of the questions I asked would have been hard to answer but she did. It's hard because we have three young kids and I am going to miss half there life. But your right I make a lot of money and she make's very little that's why I am giving her everything here because I can replace it all and she can't. I don't wat to jump back in bed with her and she would have a long road to earn my trust
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